“In this video report, I cover the subject of suicide from many different angles. Based on the evidence of my 13-year investigation into the afterlife, I share with you in this video what happens when people who have committed suicide return home to the spirit world, the consequences of their act, whether or not they go to a place some people might call hell, how their suicide affects their soul and their soul’s growth, how their pre-birth choices are connected to their suicide, and even how free will comes into play. If you have lost someone because they took their own life or you are merely curious about this subject, this video promises to be thought-provoking, insightful and comforting.” ~ Bob Olson, Afterlife TV
Bob Olson talks about suicide and the afterlife.
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This is yet another example of clarification, in terms of “what happens” once we die, be it from “natural causes” or from suicide. Your explanation makes perfect sense, Bob. The Life Review would put things in focus for those individuals who take their own lives. I would think that the lessons that those particular souls wanted to learn would present themselves again in another lifetime. I wonder if the “same” circumstances would present themselves as a test, so to speak, until those souls figure out a more effective means of getting through the issues that caused them to commit suicide in the first place?
Thanks for another great video, Bob. Keep ‘em coming! I can’t get enough of them!
I always appreciate your enthusiasm, Linda.
Thank you,
Bob
iv read thing bout after suicide and i failed to save my dads life wen he killed himself,i know wat i wud say is that magic that can happen after that is like above what god can do,its like a spirit that is psycic like it knows the future and protects you when people have tried to harm you
Thanks for your comment DJ,
Warmly,
Bob
Hello Bob! I was trying, unsuccessfully, on facebook, to find the postings of my f/b friends, and then suddenly there you are. I have no doubt that my spirit guides made sure I found you, because it must be time for me to renew my fascination with the afterlife. My interest began in 1978 when I worked as a Hospice RN and found Raymond Moody’s work. My small research project while at school involved interviewing people who had died and then were revived. I later became a psychiatric RN and worked with many who attempted suicide, and knew quite a few who later left the hospital and successfully suicided. There is so much fear and confusion about suicide. This was such a great presentation! I look forward to delving into your archives, and feel like a kid in a candy store. Two of my favorite all-time books are Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls. The info in those books helped me “flesh out” (LOL)the experience between lifetimes so that I know what to expect. It’s so comforting. Anyway, finding your site is a superb New Year’s gift.
Hi Laurel,
Big gratitude for your kindness and for sharing your story. I, too, read Michael Newton’s books and loved them. And Raymond Moody’s “Life After Life” was one of the first books I read on the afterlife.
Thanks for your comment,
Bob
Bob,
Again another great video. You have brought out everything I believe about suicide and much what I have always believed; but you have put it all together. Like someone else has commented; “clarification”.
Even though I have always since a child believed in Spirits and much of what others laugh at; I really like your site because you were such a sceptic. As you very well know, there are many scam artists out there who can ruin “the good news” of life after death for other people. All I ever wanted was the absolute truth, whatever it was, even as a child. Thankyou so much for your practicality and integrity as always.
Janie.
You’re welcome Janie,
It’s really nice to have my work appreciated in such a well thought out manner. My gratitude to you.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob – I just happened upon your site as it was listed as an advertisement on facebook. My father committed suicide when I was a teenager and I could never forget that someone told me that those that commited suicide went to hell. Then more recently my 19 year old son committed suicide. It brought up all the questions again. I couldn’t see my son burning in hell for all eternity, the loss is hard enough, to even remotely try to think that is where he would end up was heartbreaking in the extreme. I’ve not been extremely religious since my father’s death 26 years ago and lost what faith I had in God back then but my son’s death has brought me in search of my spirituality (not quite one for organized religion). But of course this looming question of what happens to those of suicide has haunted me after my son’s death. I’d spoken to 2 different pyschics and both gave me the same type of information, that they go through this transition phase where they have to relive their life and their choices. Your report just confirms this for me and let me tell you, after being told this is how it is from 3 different sources, it gives me such a sense of relief. I can finally let go of that thought that they are both burning in hell for a choice they made in this life. I can find peace knowing they aren’t any different than anyone else, they just have a little more to answer for. This is the first thing I’ve read on your page and look forward to reading more. Thank you so much for giving me an even greater sense of peace in the loss of my son with this report.
Hi Amber,
It’s people like you that I was thinking about when I created that video. I applaud your efforts to learn more about this subject and I’m glad you’re finding answers. Your soul has chosen a difficult path with two suicides to grieve, so you have my compassion for your journey. Thanks for telling your story and reminding me, once again, why I do this.
My warmest regards,
Bob
Amber,
I would like to say that there is no hell not even for suicides. I have communicaited with a spirit that died by overdose of drugs and he was very chatty after. He spoke not only to me 2 days after his death but with his father. I am so sorry that you had to suffer for so long. My heart goes out to you.
I have never seen a case were the spirit was in some purgitory.My late husband was a suicide and he has communicated with me when I could handle it. In some cases they can’t or don’t come because it may not be benificial to you at that time or you are not open to recieve. But I am sure they were trying to talk to you but because you were what I would call under the religious influence were you may have not recognized it. I am sure if you think back that you would find many occasions that you had a strong sensations or dreams or smells that made you think of your son or father. That is them trying to comfort you and reasure you.
I hope this helps you with your grief….I can promiss you that your son is with your father and they are happy in the afterlife.
Donna
Hi Donna,
I appreciate your comments.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Donna, my Husband committed suicide at the age 37 I and his family miss him so much, I think I feel him sometimes, I dream about him all the time, but I want him to communicate in a way I know its not just my mind playing tricks, I feel guilt every day as I found him and could not save him because it was to late, If I found him just a Couple of minuets sooner i could have saved him but I was too late. I want him to come back to me.
Hi Antoinette,
That was nice of you to write to Donna. I’d like to add to you, however, that I don’t believe you could have saved your husband. The Universe is infinitely powerful and intelligent. If you were meant to save your husband, you would have. It was his free will to take his life, and so he did that. No doubt part of your experience in all this (from which to learn and grow) is to believe in your heart that you had no control over that outcome. It serves no one for you to feel guilty. And your spiritual growth lesson in this lifetime (at least one of them) is to know this in your heart. I sincerely hope you can break free of this guilt and trust that the Universe would have helped you get there sooner if it were meant to be. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
You might want to watch my interview with Bill Guggenheim, titled Hello From Heaven, and my interview with Dave Kane, titled Signs From Spirit, for more info on the signs and signals our loved ones in spirit send us.
My warmest wishes to you,
Bob
Thank you for a very insightful video – for me, it has given me clarification about my beliefs and feelings. I have recently been following my heart and soul and to truly let my feelings come forward and expand. Thank you for sharing.
Cheryl
Hi Cheryl,
That’s wonderful news. What you just wrote there can be life changing. Thanks for telling me this.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi, Bob,
I appreciated the video you put up on suicide. My brother took his own life in 2008. It has been very difficult for my family. I’m glad you could help people have a greater understanding on this issue.
Sincerely,
Gayle Kirk
Psychic Medium
Hi Gayle,
Well there’s something I did not know. So very sorry to learn that about your brother, Gayle. I’m glad you appreciate the video. It came from my heart; that is, it was just something I knew I had to do. It certainly puts your work into a very empathic perspective, doesn’t it? My best wishes for you and your family in your grief.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob, Excellent. I was surfing for life after death and scanned through many sites.What i found was very depressing, about different planes and the seven planes of Hell etc. I am an ordinary human being like most with good and bad points with the motto ‘ if you cant do good to a person dont do bad ‘
I beleive in God and love him. I keep contemplating about things and about the existence of Hell, my logic said ‘ Everyone says God is all loving, merciful, we are a part of him etc. etc. I beleive this. Then if we are children of God, whatever mistakes we do, will he damn us for eternity to Hell and disown us. Never.
I think it was providence that brought me to your site and after viewing your video i am so releived that i cant put it in words. Your voice had an authentic ring and confidence that only a person who speaks from true knowledge has. I felt very comforted. Thank You. I shall now go through all the material on your site.
Warm Regards and keep comforting distressed souls.
Thank you Prem,
Your words warm my heart and remind me why I do this. Much gratitude for taking the time to comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Awesome!
Thank you Brion,
I like it when one word says all that needs to be said.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob
Just come across your site.Really wonderful find.I was wondering if you have transcripts of your videos as where I am in the world,we are limited to the internet and download /videos so we cannot play videos of 30 minutes and more.I would want to read more on your posts by topics if possible.
Thank you
Cindy
Hi Cindy,
Transcripts will be coming in the future. But transcribing is a costly service and we don’t have the budget for it at this time, since this site is all free. Hopefully we’ll get there this year. thanks for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Thank you so much! I was wandering through scriptures, masters ,scholars ..to see why suicide is treated so badly by God..I am a follower of Vedanta who strongly believes that the “Soul” you mentioned in this post has a high level of attainment (which mostly referred to as God).But then no masters made sense to me when the whole model was presented as teaching exercise by Merciful God. Then Mercy should mean something else, which is not the case as it is self evident. However, the explanations you put here do confirm the idea that God is endlessly merciful that He lets us choose what we want to experience and probably after each death, we are elevated to a state that we ourselves take up our roles next time ..till our desires for experiences are exhausted and find final refuge in Him..Its a neat deal to put in place while playing our shot, not to interfere with others without their permission..So it makes sense why being harmless to others is an ethic…and that explains why no one can really justify suicide since it is going to hurt some for sure…But it never made sense to me that suffering souls will be lead to more suffering by Merciful God after that act..I was restlessly searching for an answer for weeks and I found this..My gratitude and humble pranams !
Prayers
Meera
Hi Meera,
That’s wonderful that this video helped you. You did a great job working your way through this subject using a paradigm that makes sense to you. And I appreciate that you have presented us with your thought process on this. Once again, thanks for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob,
I stumbled onto your website when I was looking to attach information on my newly formed Blog about life after death. I have had a fascination with the other side as long as I’ve been alive,. I just didn’t recognize it as that when I was younger. As long as I can remember, I have been searching for answers to life. I feel a very strong need to share some of my experiences with others and them with me.
I am one of the suicide survivors that you talk about. I was 16 yrs old at the time maybe early 17. That part is not as important to me as my experience. Life was unbearable, it was the late 60′s, and drugs were all the rage. I became a part of that confusion and I saw no other solution to my pain. It was not a form of punishment for my loved ones. ( You were very correct about your comment that many people do not do this to hurt loved ones.) I simply could not handle life and felt there was no one to help me with my anguish. I saw no way out.
My cat, Miss Nibs, and I, were staying at my hippie boyfriend’s place while he was out of town for the evening. I was a professional dancer or “go-go” dancer at the time and drinking had already been a big part of my life for several years. Tack on the drug scene and I was an emotional, psychological mess.
To make short of a long story, I took a bottle of sleeping pills and washed it down with a bottle of beer. The next thing I remember was watching my life and the short time I had lived being downloaded into my mind. Afterwords it seemed to me like I was surrounded by blackness or space.
In this blackness or space, I was contacted by a male voice. Although it wasn’t really a voice like we use to communicate. It was more like a communication of mind to mind. He spoke and said, ” It is not your time to die. You are being given a choice to live or die.” If I chose life, he told me my life would be “very” difficult but if I could hang in there it would all be worth my while, however, if I chose death and it was not my time… There suddenly appeared before me a visual door that opened to show me what would happen. I do remember it was so horrible that I put my hand up and said, no, out loud. It was an easy choice for me to make at that point. Obviously I had chosen life as I’m hear to tell my story. ( I must tell you that I have never been able to remember what I saw or experienced behind that door. )
As soon as that conscious decision was made, I was left alone and I had a wonderful feeling of just being in space. I remember thinking how I now understood the mysteries of life. It was so simple. We all made it so complicated for ourselves in life. ( That information was taken from me as well once I was back on this side.) My next thought was the knowledge that I could travel anywhere in the Universe that I wanted to go. All I had to do was think about it and I knew I would be there. For some reason I was scared by that thought and I wasn’t ready for that, so I intentionally focused my thoughts on my boyfriend coming home. Of all the silly things to think about, I remember thinking, geez, I have got to finish the dishes before he gets back from his trip.
There I was -suddenly in the kitchen at the sink and I felt euphoric. I felt electric. More alive than ever in my life .I also felt like I was floating above the floor. I remember thinking how strange that was but nice. I could hear a couple talking on the street, which was weird because we were in a third floor apartment down a long hallway at the back of the building and I could never hear that kind of thing before.
My next thought was to go into the living room / bedroom where as hippies, we had a large mattress on the floor to sleep on or sit on. I turned to look in the room and shock hit me when I saw my body lying on the bed. My poor cat, Miss nibs, was next to my head batting at it as though to try and wake me. Her fur was on end, she was meowing and she looked panicked which was how I suddenly felt. I could not accept the possibility of my being over there on the mattress, dead.
I suddenly was sitting up on the bed, picking up my poor cat, trying to comfort her as well as myself. That’s not the end of the story but it is all that matters for now.
I want to comment about your video on suicide. You have a wonderful knack for what you do. I was enthralled with what you have to say as it affects my life as well. It’s been over 40 years ago since my suicide incident and life has taken many twists for me. I wish I could say that my experience had made a dramatic change in my choices right away, but for many years I continued to make the same mistakes and all the wrong choices in life. I had no help and no one to go to. Eventually, because I was seeking the right answers I found them for myself. That was another lifetime ago and that male voice was right. My life is very difficult. I suffer with serious medical issues and much pain. However i have learned much on my journey and feel much joy with life. I feel I understand the basics of life because of my spiritual awakenings. ( That was only one of many.) I am fascinated with learning about life on the other side and I want to share my experiences with others so that they too can glean information to go on with what I now believe to be a completion of our soul’s journey.
We do all affect one another and there are actually days when I feel so in touch with the Universe that I feel absolutely complete. I also started to have the thought a few years ago that I’m in the last stages of this life and it’s important to me to reach out to help others if I can.
I want you to know that for many years I was afraid to tell my story because of the negative effects it could possibly have on the survivors of suicide victims. But the thought has run through my mind over the years -what if that male voice was using this door that was opened to show me what would happen if I chose to die by suicide- was done simply to scare me into making the right choice for myself? A friend of mine says the door I viewed could have been the feelings of regret I would have experienced if I had continued on with suicide. Maybe it’s a little of both. You mention this in your video. She suggested I read the Journey of Souls and the Destiny of Souls by Michael Newton. I devoured those books. I suggested to her the book, Many Lives, Many Masters by Brian Weiss as an excellent source of info. A woman Dr. I worked with over 5 yrs ago suggested that book when I told her my story one day through conversation and it opened up a whole new avenue for me.
We are all in this together and It blows me away to think of how exciting it is to get little pieces of information from different authors and web sites and friends and how all my questions are being answered. The puzzle is slowly coming together. I just want to say thanks for your knowledge and ability to bring that info to me. You have a wonderful gift to share. This was a bit more than I intended to write but…
Thanks,
Marlene
Hi Marlene,
What an incredible story. Thank you for sharing it with everyone. Your story teaches a great deal, including the fact that one can have a near-death experience like this and still go on to live with many challenges. Some people believe life is easier after an NDE, but that’s not always (or even often) the case. There’s a lot more to learn from what you’ve written, but I’m just going to keep my comments to myself and let people absorb what they will. I appreciate your comments and story. And I wish you the very best.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob, I just read this story from Marlene in which she had this to say:
[quoting Marlene]
Doesn’t his contradict what you say in your video about how suicides are met with love and caring. Here Marlene states that what she saw was horrible. Her experience brings up a lot of fear and uncertainty in me. Can you comment more on her experience?
Hi Mr. Williams,
I’m sorry to learn about your struggles. I read both your comments (one which was not published because it contains a lot someone else’s copyrighted material). And while I know it’s not what you’re seeking, I make no promises as to what is true regarding the afterlife. I begin and end this video stating that everyone must investigate these questions for themselves and not adopt my truth as their own. In matters of the afterlife, no one knows the absolute truth. And I’m certainly no expert on Jesus’ teachings, so I definitely cannot comment there. I do believe in “some” of what was written in Michaels’ material, but there’s also much with which I disagree. My own evidence has indicated that we do not escape consequences for taking our own life, but now I’m just repeating what I said in the video.
If you are looking for advice from me, it would be to focus more on ways to turn your life around into a more positive and purposeful existence. Don’t give up and ask for help from people who can give it. I truly believe that you came into this world to live life out to it’s natural end and to overcome whatever challenging circumstances you meet. That is what I believe your soul desires–that is what I believe all our souls desire. There are many stories of people who have suffered a great deal and chose to turn their lives around in this way. And I believe it would serve you well to focus your energies on this intention. You could then inspire others with your story.
If you are contemplating suicide, I highly recommend that you visit http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or http://www.suicidehotlines.com and I recommend counseling or assistance from a mental health professional. Hospital emergency rooms in most cities can usually help too. I’ve dealt with clinical depression in my own life many years ago, so I know how helpful these resources can be.
My very best wishes to you,
Bob
Hello Bob,
Happened to come across you website via Facebook. This brings me great comfort to know this about when someone commits suicide as I have lost my husband on June 20, 2009 to suicide. Thank you so much!! Will be posting this video on my Facebook page.
Hi Cathy,
I am most sorry about your husband. But I’m happy to hear this video has brought you comfort. And I appreciate you sharing it on Facebook.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob
My only Son committed suicide on June 30 , 2012 so it’s only 3 weeks ago ,he was suffering with depression ,I believe brought on by loosing his dad at a young age . I don’t have strong religious beliefs and wonder if there is a god how can he do this to me ? I must say your video has give me so much comfort to all the anguish and suffering I’m going through . . your simply Medicine , Thank you x
Hi Alison,
I am most sorry to learn about your son’s recent passing. Please watch the video more than once if you helps. I created it with people like you in mind. Please know that your son is aware of your pain due to his loss and he can hear you when you talk to him. Go ahead and talk right out loud to him, and then watch for the subtle signs that he sends to show his is with you (lights flickering, birds at your window, special songs playing on the radio, aromas in the air that remind you of him).
May the world hold you gently in its arms in your grief.
Warmly,
Bob
Dear alison, i want to thank you for sharing the loss of your son. I also lost my grandson this last december and could not make any sense of it. This video seems to help me very much. This word to let you know that i hope that this is so and that your son is well and knows how much he is loved. In friendship and support, Mike
Bob:
I just recently found your podcasts and listened to a couple that I found inspiring. One was What happens to People When They Commit Suicide, and the other was an interview of the director of The Astral City.
I am just now watching The Astral City, and it seems to completely defy (at least I’ve only watched the first 10 minutes) all the comforting things you reported that happened to people when they commit suicide. It does not look like anything that would bring comfort to survivors of a suicide.
What should we believe? The report or the movie (which was based on a medium’s book)?
Thank you,
Hi C. Buck,
Actually, if you watch the rest of that interview, you’ll see there’s a lot more to the purgatory scene and message from that movie. One can interpret from that movie that the main character was simply experiencing what he expected to experience; that is, until he asked for help–then everything changed. But that’s just one interpretation.
What makes your question important, however, is that I don’t always agree with everything that my guests have to say, nor do my guests agree with all that one another teaches. The point of Afterlife TV is that there is no such thing as what you “should believe.” The point of Afterlife TV is for you to become aware of the different evidence and beliefs that exist in order that you make up your own mind. Since spirituality is subjective, that’s all we have–to make our own choices and draw our own conclusions.
What I can tell you is that my own conclusions, which are based on my personal investigation of the afterlife since 1999, are shared in my video reports–the videos I create where it’s just me talking to you, the audience. If there’s ever a conflict between something one of my guests teach and what I say in my video reports, you’ll know where I stand based on my reports. This does not make one person right and another wrong. It’s merely different experiences that lead to different interpretations and conclusions. No one will really know what the absolute truth is about life after death until we return there. So we’re all just making educated guesses. I personally lean on evidence based on practicality and logic. Others lean on what is backed up by science. Others lean on other factors.
I hope this is helpful to you. Thanks for your insightful question.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob, I just wanted to thank you for your video regarding suicide and the after life. Today I received the news that my sister-in-law’s mother had taken her life. Needless to say, it was very disturbing news and I have been struggling with my feelings and emotions around this issue ever since. Shortly after I heard the news, I began realizing how conflicted I felt about her suicide and what I had been taught (told) my entire life about this topic. I went on the internet to see what I could come up with and find. I came across your video which appealed to me, primarily because it was first time I have ever heard or seen anyone speak at length about this topic. Typically, suicide is not something that most people want to spend a great deal of time thinking or talking about. Your video on this topic has given me a sense of comfort, peace, and clarity. I also feel that your video on this matter will help guide me and help me reconcile my feelings and views around this. I know she was struggling with a few things prior to her taking her life and the thought of her being in a place where there are people who are loving and comforting her is very helpful for me. She was a good person who loved her family and people in general. Thanks again.
You’re welcome, Travis,
I’m sorry to learn about your sister-in-law’s passing. But I’m glad my video added some insight and comfort to you. Be gentle with yourself during this time of grief. And thank you for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob,
I lost my only Son one month ago. He took his life after four years battling a heroin addiction. He was an absolutely brilliant man who made some bad choices. His tragic end has been devastating to my family.
In any event I was searching on google and came across your site. I am somewhat skeptical about many things after breaking away from my religious faith. My foundational construct was based on a particular belief and after years of study I departed from what I call fear-based religion. I really appreciated your non-secular video on what happens to us when we depart and those who have taken their life. It feels natural and right to me.
Thank you for sharing!
All the best,
Dave
Hi Dave,
First, I am really sorry to learn about your son’s passing. Heroin destroys many lives and many families. I’m pleased to see that your words are understanding of your son’s challenges, choices and how they led to his final act. And I’m glad that my video has resonated with you. My very best wishes for you and your family in the coming years.
Warmly,
Bob
my 20 year old son took his own life on december 2011. I cry and i miss him everyday.I am in so much pain my baby. I loved him with all my heart and everything I had but it was obviously not enough.I was not agood enough mum. I dont understand .
Hi Tops,
I’m so sorry to learn about your son’s passing. I obviously don’t know the details of your son’s passing, but there are many reasons why people take their own life. And if you loved your son and showed him love, there are likely other reasons why he made the choices that he did. I highly recommend seeking support for yourself through the Compassionate Friends organization at CompassionateFriends.org, which offers grief support for those who have lost children (of any age) from others who have lost children too. I’m sure there are people there who have lost children due to suicide. Be gentle with yourself and reach out for assistance.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob,
Thank you for the perspective you have opened in this video.
I have felt the potential for suicide very strongly for a long time and actually arrived on this page today while researching for ‘what I’m getting into’ as I feel very close to departure. But you seem to magnify the tiny whisper inside to stop and see the bigger picture. You have helped me remember, you have helped me see beyond the seemingly endless confusion of suffering.
Please continue this important research. It let’s the light in.
Thank you
Hi Skolan,
I appreciate that you get this important point. I believe as you have seen it, that it teaches everyone to see the bigger picture. And when we get a glimpse of life and the afterlife in this way, it gives one a real and true reason for persisting in this physical world. We each have purpose and meaning here, and we often only realize or recognize this in our selves after great struggle or lengthy suffering. As you wrote so eloquently, we must see beyond the seemingly endless confusion of suffering in order to see the light. Then, just as we are ready to give up, if we can muster the strength to continue and move forward, the truth becomes apparent just beyond where most people give up. This is the point where life begins anew for those who don’t give up (I speak from personal experience).
Thank you for your email. It means a lot to me. Perhaps one day you will find a way to reach out to those contemplating suicide to help them see a higher perspective too. With your talent in writing, a book about your experience might be in order.
Warmly,
Bob
This all makes sense to me. I’ve heard the stories about Gods, Goddesses, the believes of various religions, but this is the first one that I believe without significant doubt. This is the first video I’ve seen and I find it amazing how well this connects with all my pre-beliefs and thoughts. Thank you for sharing your ideas and information, Bob. You’ve brought me great comfort and inner peace. (Man that last sentence sounds corny now that I read it)
Hi Elizabeth,
There’s nothing corny about it. You are in good company with many of our Afterlife TV viewers. I hope you enjoy more of my videos. Thanks for your kindness.
Warmest wishes,
Bob
Hello Bob,
Thank you so much for putting together such a wonderful summary of your findings. I find that when I research these topics, people often go too far into detail in explanations that seem unreal to me (e.g. Jesus wears a purple robe, everybody has wings of varying size, and there are cinnamon bubs the size of diner plates!) and I just end up losing confidence in the whole thing. When I hear something like this, I agree with every single word and can see it as being natural and believable; it even seems obvious when I listen to it. That really allows me to feel like I’ve gained some sure footing on the topic and it brings me back to the state of mind I need to be in right now.
A little under two weeks ago, my dad committed suicide. He was 50 years old, and I am currently 23. He suffered for a very long time with severe depression, even going through about 18 electroshock treatments. The loss of his mother contributed to the onset of his depression, so I know that I must find peace in this situation to keep my mental health. There have been many communications with him, so clearly showing that he still has his sense of humor and is with his mother again. One of them was an undeniable life changing experience where he answered a question with the song ‘mama I’m coming home’.. I am so grateful that he gave us the chance to experience that as I now know that he is ok and have walked away with solid faith in the after life.
Now I have just been exploring the options (what is it, where is he, is he happy?) and your video has really provided me with what feels like closure. I will play it as many times as I need to be reminded, and keep that faith with me that he is ok. The mental state that he suffered is beyond torment that I can imagine, seeing it firsthand I really felt like I lost my dad… Now I know he has been able to find himself again, and I am so grateful for that. He is back to his old self, making silly jokes again, like taking over our meticulously planned song list at his service and playing dancing queen (which nobody even downloaded!!) and making the cross fall during the service. I can tell his sense of humor remains and I am thankful for that.
Thank you again for providing me with a very important piece to the puzzle on my path to coming to terms with this. You have done a wonderful thing and will save many others from the terrible stories we have heard that our loves ones will suffer. I refuse to believe that and I hope many others come to realize it as well.
Hi Claudia,
First, please know that I’m sincerely sorry to learn about your father’s passing. This will be a life-long journey for you to deal with this, but I’m pleased to see that you are quickly on the right track — and you know that already. That will make all the difference.
Second, you are most welcome. However, I must thank you for reminding me the very reason I created this video report. It is for people just like you who have lost a loved one to suicide and are trying to make sense of all the garbage one hears and reads out there about suicide and the afterlife.
I might also add that your description of what you gained from this video and how it affected you is so articulately written. Be sure to keep a journal of your experience as a suicide survivor, if that interests you, as you might use it in the future as part of a book or workshop to help others in your situation. There’s certainly a need.
My warmest wishes to you,
Bob
PS, I have absolutely no doubt that your father has communicated to you from spirit in the many ways you described. Thanks for sharing that. And I love that you recognize his joy and continued humor. While this is confusing to many people who believe the more fearful messages, it is the perfect evidence for you that the investigation findings as stated in this video are accurate.
Bob, what you say makes so much sense to me. I believe in an afterlife, in fact I can’t imagine there could be any other way. I read so many conflicting accounts regarding what happens to someone who takes their own life. My gut feeling is that we are all different. No body really wants to kill themselves, it’s only that the challenges we all face in life can simply become to much to bear for some. Once a suicide passes over, I believe that there is total understanding, love, and compassion for that soul. This is the ultimate act, and is not done lightly. Not to mention the fact that either a permanent, or even temporary mental condition must be involved. Usually that would be a severe depression in most cases. Depression is a sickness, just like cancer, or anything else. Then there’s addictions as you point out. Any death is a tragedy for those left behind. What makes suicide different is that it is a conscious act, but when that consciousness is suffering so much there comes a tipping point.
Thanks Ronaldo,
I agree wholeheartedly. Thanks for your comments.
Warmly,
Bob
My son aged 22 hung himself two days ago, your words gave me so much comfort so thank you, my pain right now is nothing I have ever experienced, my two other sons found him which is so tragic and so painful, he left no note, i found out he had debt he couldnt cope with, he always came to me but not this time, no note no words, not even to friends, he just went, he was bright, caring and had a good future, something called him away, i doubt he meant it, i will tell him every day i forgive him and love him, i wish i could talk to him, rewind the last week, done something to stop this, i cant get out of my mind he hung there alone in the cold and darkness a vision that will never go away… I will sleep tonight or at least try knowing he was met with joy, that his pain has gone and loved ones will help him through, I will tell him I forgive him and love him to ease the pain he feels
Thank you for your words, thank you for helping me, you are an angel on this earth
Susan
Hi Susan,
I can’t express my heartfelt sympathy enough to you. Most people find my video months after their loved one passed; you found it in two days. I created it for people just like you who are suffering, confused and worried about their loved ones who took their own lives. Watch this video as many times as necessary to ease your heart.
And while you can’t get your son’s physical presence back, I’ve seen a great deal of evidence to know he is around you. And I’m sure that he is trying to get your attention so that you know it too. If you can believe it, just talk right out loud to him, trusting that he is there with you and listening. You might want to watch my video where I interview Bill Guggenheim about the signs our loved ones in spirit send us in order to let us know they’re around. You can currently find it on Afterlife TV’s home page. It’s titled Hello From Heaven.
Be gentle with yourself, Susan. And my condolences to your sons too; they will need your love through all this, no doubt. You can support one another.
Warmly,
Bob
bob my name is trevor my very close brother tyler had commited suicide he hung himself i wanted to let you know that i found a lot of comfort in this video i did have a question though i keep having dreams that i am talking to him and doing other things with him does this have any meaning
Hi Trevor,
When our loved ones in spirit come to us in dreams, these are known as “dream visitations.” Usually, these dreams are extremely vivid and memorable. People who have them say years later that they still remember them like they occurred the night prior. Our loved ones in spirit try to communicate with us in many ways. But dreams are often the easiest way for them to give us messages and ease our grief. So I would expect this is Tyler’s way of saying hello and letting you know that he’s okay and around you.
I’m sorry that you lost your brother, Trevor, but I’m pleased to see that he has found a way to show you he’s still with you.
Warmly,
Bob
thanks bob my mom has also been waking up at the same times everynight and she says she feels like someone is gently touching her face everynight what does this mean thank you
Hey Trevor,
Well, if it happened to me, I would interpret that as someone in spirit saying hello and comforting me. It seems like a lovely after-death communication.
Warmly,
Bob
Hello Bob.
My wife passed away by suicide a little over two months ago. I am only 27 and still have trouble fathoming that this has really happened to me at this age. We had so many plans and wishes for this life together, it all seems surreal. Your entire life comes crashing down in the course of a single day. I was the one that found her after I came home from work, and that moment can never be erased from my mind. I took it upon myself to take care of her after her passing, and basically directed her entire service on my own. This was very hard on me, but made me feel like I was still able to help her on some level. This also offered many moments of being able to say farewell in a “normal” way.
It has been an incredibly tough journey so far, to come to terms with everything that has culminated into her doing what she did to find her peace. I am not left with the initial shock driven guilt of not being at her side when she took her own life and being able to step in and stop it, which I am thankful for. She made it perfectly clear that the path she was on was unavoidable to her and that there was nothing I could do about this to influence her, if she were to go ahead and do such a thing. So basically she took away my guilt before I could have a chance to truly develop it. My wife was very intelligent to say the least and a truly wonderful human being. Sadly, though many moments of intense joy were not unfamiliar to her, she also had to endure severe mental unrest and suffering every day which was now also taking its toll physically. I tried to help her as best I could in dealing with it, but it was never enough to relieve her of her pain.
Where there is no guilt for me now, there is much disbelief like I stated before. I truly thought that her mental state would not push her this far and that she would overcome it in the end and kept telling myself this. My wife was a strong individual and had dealt with adversity on many occasions throughout her lifetime. I never really viewed suicide as a truly realistic outcome of the things she was suffering from on a daily basis, until after it had happened. I guess I didn’t want to believe it at the time, because I wouldn’t have been able to live my own life and would be overcome with constant worry. She held a very strong belief in God and after she passed, I found her bible with markers in it which she had left there, on a passage dealing with courage while dying.
Apart from this there have been many signs afterwards, things like her name popping up all over the place at random times while I’m trying to piece my life back together. There have also been some very vivid dreams. I am skeptical by nature and while her name is not standard, it is also not rare. While she was still alive it would also pop up every once in a while during my daily activities. “Dreams and emotions go hand in hand and you are preoccupied with her passing so you just notice things like her name more often than you normally would.” I explained to myself to try to rationalise things after being emotionally overwhelmed by them. So due to my skepticism I brushed these things aside as mere coincidence a little while after they first started happening, which just made it painful. Signs pointing to her were now little reminders of the situation I was in. Things didn’t stop however. Her name and references to times we shared kept coming to me randomly, almost daily. The signs were so relentless and came in such unique ways that I was starting to get baffled by it. They still come from time to time, just not as often as in the first month after her service.
Soon after I accepted these things as true signs, my spirituality became charged like never before. My own belief in a higher power is now stronger than ever. I kept scouring the internet on details about spiritual subjects and found this page when searching for suicide in connection to the afterlife. I have to say Bob; thank you for expressing your viewpoint in regards to this subject in this way. It strengthens my own because I know my wife is in a good place right now, I can literally feel that since the moment she passed away. It is hard to explain but I just know. I feel you are helping a lot of people including myself through these videos. You keep things sincere and don’t try to press anything on anybody and base your messages on logic and research, which is often the wisest road to take in my own opinion. Your words offered me a degree of comfort at a time when I really needed that encouragement to be able to stay on the positive side of things.
So thanks again Bob, I will be checking in on your site from time to time.
With kind regards,
David
Hi David,
I appreciate that you shared your experience with us so intimately. I’ve read your comment more than once, yet I don’t feel there is much for me to say. Your words alone have said so much that I don’t want to take away from them. Thank you for writing. My very best wishes for your journey of grief and growth.
Warmly,
Bob
Hello-Just watched your video and I enjoyed your insights. When you mentioned “free will” I was curious as to how that plays into a suicide that was forced opon yourself. For an example, if your purpose in this world was to save souls. You fullfill your purpose and find it has destroyed your life. The free will of your decisions that has saved others from harm has now brought destruction to you. How does that affect the after-life or does it?
Hi Atticus,
I’m not sure I fully understand your question, but here is my answer. Free will choices do not force anything upon one’s self. So if your free-will choice to fulfill what you believe is your life purpose leads to a negative outcome, it is still a free-will choice to take your own life. So I guess my answer is that this situation would not change anything I discussed in the video. I hope this is helpful.
Warmly,
Bob
Dear mr.olson,
My grandson, Yousef, decided to commit suicide on 4 dec 2012. He was only a little over 18 years old, drug free, didn’t drink or smoke and was a committed vegan which i accepted but did not support very much. We were able to extract his last messages to one of his friends minutes before he shot himself and his last words were that he wanted to sit alone and do this after he calmed himself. He also said that nothing could be done to change his decision. He gave no explanation, excuses or goodbyes. The only hint we have is that he sometimes said that he felt what he called a “sadness” but could not explain it. Anyway, my family has been destroyed and unable to understand his act. Your video and explanation has helped us tremendously in dealing with our grief. You have an uncanny gift to organize and put into words my basic beliefs. Your input has given me much to think about My daughter is the one who introduced me to your website and she also benefited greatly from the things you share with us. For easing our pain and helping us in forgiving his act, i and my family thank you. I will keep reading and support your website, Mike
Hello Mike,
I am deeply sorry about your tragic and recent loss. Your words are a great reminder to me about why I do this work. I will read it many times. Thank you for writing.
Warmly,
Bob
Dear Bob:
Is is possible that my desire to terminate life, is a result of past life experiences which ended in suicide? Since I was a young girl, I have imagined and even planned ending when I became older. I know I have mental illness, brain trauma and presently live with chronic pain. I have been in therapy and on medications that have not helped over the years. I talk about it with others. I have mentioned the desire to family and friends. I do what ever I can to be present, loving and engaged with life. My problems have not been temporary, and each day is a struggle. Thanks for your video. Is there an answer to my initial question?
Hi Patricia,
Yes, it’s quite possible that you had a past life that ended in suicide, which could be why you feel this way. It might also be why you’ve signed up for so many challenges in this life–to overcome the temptations you feel to balance the karma of a past life. I too lived with thoughts of suicide for most of my life. I thought they were normal. In my early thirties, I mentioned to my wife how most people have suicidal thoughts and she said, “No Bob, most people do not have suicidal thoughts.” I don’t feel them any more. At one point, perhaps in my early forties, they dissipated.
I truly believe that our soul’s desire is for us to not take our own life, to persist in spite of our pain and suffering. So I hope that you are able to live the rest of your life without giving in to the temptation. Because you are here, you are so much more valuable to the world than you will ever know. Every kind word you give to someone, every smile, every random act of kindness, sends waves of love and goodness across the world, touching every human being. We are not meant to see this in action necessarily, but my research into the afterlife has provided me with immense evidence of such. So don’t think that your presence here is without value.
You don’t need to be rich, famous, healthy or popular to positively affect the world. Just by staying alive, being present (as you mentioned), and enjoying whatever moments of life you are able, you are serving humanity. Each day you stay alive, overcoming the challenges you are facing, is a testament to the power of the human spirit. Your loved ones in spirit and spirit guides are cheering for you, even when you feel totally alone. That is the challenge of the human life–moving forward without truly knowing that we are loved and connected to the Universe, to the spirits who guide us, and to every other human being.
As a little exercise, which you might already do, set the intention via prayer, or simply by talking to God (The Universe), that you will overcome whatever challenges are before you. Furthermore, set the intention that you know peace, joy, health and abundance. Say it in the present moment, as if it is already true, because the Universe knows no time. And let the Universe know each day what you are grateful for in your life at any moment. It can be something big like a day without a suicidal thought or something small like the joy you feel while watching a puppy walk by you on the street. Half of life is focusing on the gifts that bring us joy, because the struggles are more likely to get our attention.
My very best wishes to you, Patricia,
Bob
Bob,
Your response to Patricia was so beautifully expressed, I just had to make a comment. I work at a large corporation dealing with vision health and I love to hear the positive comments from people that take the time to stop in just to say how wonderful it is to work with me. We need to hear those affirmations. It helps to keep us balanced. You truly do so much good with your website and the positive information that you share with everyone. I can feel people gaining insight and expanding their thinking through the knowledge you share from your interviewed guests and own personal experiences. I know I sure have.
I love listening to the interviews, reading each person’s comments, and your replies. You make so many good points …!
Thank you for being “here.”
Marlene
Hi Marlene,
I appreciate your comment because I never know if anyone else ever reads my replies. The fact that you took this time out of your busy life to acknowledge me and my work is evidence in itself of what I tried to convey to Patricia–the immense power we each have to positively affect the world each and every day. I’m most grateful to you, and your kind words motivate me in my work more than you know.
My best wishes to you,
Bob
Bob,
Love your videos!
Fifty years ago, I lost my father to suicide due to mental illness. Recently, I unexpectedly received a visit from him in my meditation explaining to me what happens to those afflicted with physical and mental illnesses. First of all, he looked remarkably happy and peaceful. Not at all what he looked like when he was suffering from major clinical depression. He also told me how all our illnesses, sufferings, and struggles that occurred in this world dissipate as soon as you enter the spirit realm. As for his suicide, I think it was part of the learning experience and plan for all those involved in his life. Ironically, my relationship with my father in spirit is actually closer than when he was on earth and very ill. It also brings me peace “knowing” that he is doing well and will always be in my life.
Hi Karen,
Wow, thank you for sharing your story. When a child loses a parent, it’s a life-long journey working through that. When a child loses a parent to suicide, it’s ever more profound. I’m happy to hear that your father visited you in your meditation. What a wonderful gift. Thanks for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob:
I’m a medium and I really don’t know quite where to begin, but above all I want to congratulate you on serving others in the way you are doing–it’s wonderful! It not only provides great information about the afterlife, but a forum where people get to share their own experiences. You don’t just spout facts, you put faces on them with your own experiences those of your guests, and these comments from readers, which is really the best way to teach. I teach mediumship and write and teach about past lives, especially past life therapy, My web sites both contain interview articles about past life therapists, especially ones who pioneered the past life therapy method on the west coast. When I’m asked by grieving people about suicides–about what a suicide experiences after death and why anyone would do such a thing, why they don’t think of others, etc., all that is very beautifully laid out in this piece of yours about suicide, so now I have a wonderful place I can send them for information about these things. So glad you bring up the inter-life period and past lives and especially that suicide is among the possible choices that are actually laid out before we are born and that past life may play a large part in it. Hooray! A potential client to whom I said I could not give the kind of reading she wanted said that you had mediums listed who could! She must have been sent to me so I would find your site and get to praise your work and take advantage of your expertise when I’m faced with explaining suicide. I’ve been keeping the facts about both past life experience, as well as inter-life previewing, separate from my explanations to those who get in touch with me because of the suicides of their beloved friends and family members. Now I can say that not only do I believe this, but so does an un-ideological, fair-minded researcher and tell them where to find this video. I’ll be back to see other interviews–I can see that, thanks to you, this is about to become what I do for relaxation! My first newspaper column was a quiz about parapsychology because I was a skeptic to begin with. Thank you more than I can say!
Hi Pat,
All I can say is thank you for all that you’ve written. So well articulated. I’m honored by your words.
Warmly,
Bob
Hello Bob,
Thank you for this insightful video.
Whenever I have discussed the topic of suicide with a friend, the notion of karmic responsibility has always come up as a strong argument for living. I’m wondering, has your research come across evidence that a spirit is condemned to repeat trials in its next incarnation if suicide is chosen? Say someone made a terrible mistake or suffers a terrible affliction and commits suicide, are they forced to repeat the same problems or worse in their next life to balance their karma and overcome the lesson in that suffering?
Hi Jarek,
There are no absolutes when it comes to the afterlife. So much depends upon the life lived and the intentions of the soul for that lifetime.
I do realize that many people teach this idea that you described. But I have not seen any evidence of it, personally. Meaning, I have not had a person in spirit (via a medium) say that this was the case; I have not “known” this in a life-between-lives regression; I have not even had a channel say it is so when channeling wisdom from group entities (not to say that channels have never said this, just not in my presence). Therefore, until I personally have evidence that this is true, I have to assume that it could happen in some cases, if the spirit chooses; but that it is not an absolute in every reincarnation.
I definitely would never use the word “forced” when referring to a soul’s choices in the afterlife. However, I can see why a soul might want to repeat “similar” (rarely the exact same) challenges. And I also don’t think of lessons as being “overcome,” but rather “experienced”–we learn from every experience, whether we overcome our challenges or not. I’d even go so far as to say that the purpose of life is to have physical experiences, which is why we can never fail. Even a poor choice that leads to negativity is still an experience that benefits us as souls because we learn from the infinite possibilities of any experience.
I also refer to what I said in this video about “potentials,” as I think this too is relevant to my answer (the idea that a person comes into a life with the potential to take their own life).
I hope this is helpful to you, Jarek. Your question is actually brilliantly in-depth, and I know many people have wondered the same. Thank you for your articulately written comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob
thank you so much for speaking so clearly and made it easy for me to understand very well about the spiritual and afterlife world
I am not very good in writing in English I’m from Vietnam I hve never thouht of any American would believe in spiritual and afterlife world and you explain very well thank you again but I’d like to ask you about the people whom commit suicide is that act came with their soul’s plans? be cause I know a pator in a church I visited not long ago he commited suicide I thought he would know better not to do it took his own life.
I love your video I watch listen one after another.
Hi Yen,
I did mention this in this video on suicide, but let me write it briefly here, as well. I believe that some people come into this lifetime with the “potential” to take their own life. Whether they do or not is a matter of their free will as physical, human beings. So it is not their soul plan to necessarily take their own life. But it is their soul plan to be challenged with suicidal thoughts or tendencies.
I do believe, too, that every soul hopes to overcome these tendencies and the challenges that tempt one towards suicide (and I believe the eternal benefits are far greater), but the soul also learns and grows if one gives in to these temptations. Plus, as I said in the video, there’s also a varying degree of control over the act of taking one’s life (and therefore a varying degree of free will) when under the influence of mental illness, addictions or even constant chronic pain or suffering.
In a similar way, all those who share a lifetime with a loved one who has this potential (to take their own life) also come in with the potential that they will lose a loved one to suicide. In other words, their soul understands that grieving the loss of a loved one who took his own life is a possibility (and an experience they will learn and grow from if that happens), so they share a life with a person who has the potential to take their own life. However, if that person overcomes their challenges and suicidal tendencies and chooses to not take their life, then all those around him learn and grow from his free-will choice to not do that, as well. Either way, everyone’s soul has an experience from which they can learn and grow.
I hope I’ve written this so that it’s easy to understand. Thanks for writing (and all the way from Vietnam). I’m sorry for the loss of your pastor. There sure were a lot of people who were affected and confused by his suicide. The best we can hope is that they do what you have done and used his passing as a catalyst for spiritual growth.
Warmest wishes to you,
Bob
Dear Bob,
Today one of my son’s closest friends was buried after hanging himself. The boy was only 19 years old.My son and his friends are so devasted among many others. The strange thing about this is that i was told during a psychic reading that I would be receiving sad news relating to my son that would make us feel bad. She mentioned someone being sick but I think she did not want to worry me and mention death b/c she doesnt like to focus on the negative. Of course my son thought I crazy and brushed me off. Then after receiving the news of the suicide, I realized this was what the psychic was talking about. I am taking this news so bad b/c i wish i could have stopped this from happening if I could have figured it out beforehand. I wish i could have had helped him and made him realize he was not alone. No one can understand why this happened b/c he was just getting his life together by stopping drugs and getting a job.
Anyhow, I have been searching all day online to find something that would comfirm that this boy is in a good place. Thank you for your video. It is helping me realize that I could not have stopped him. And I have some religh he is in a good place. I hope!
Hi Marle,
I’m sorry for your loss. But you could not have stopped it. That’s not what psychic readings are about. You should watch my video on Predictions. Allow yourself to grieve without the burden of that thought on your shoulders. I’m glad this video gave you some peace.
Warmly,
Bob
Somewhat contradicting. No judgement but the spirit feels shame? Doesn’t the feeling of shame come from some sort of judgement?
Hi Zack,
You ask a really good question, because one could certainly mistaken shame for judgement. However, when a person in spirit looks back at their life during what’s called the Life Review process, that person is the only one making any judgements on his life choices and actions. The spirits who are supporting that person during the Life Review are only there to help him learn and grow from his choices/actions during that lifetime. That person then learns to forgive himself for anything of which he’s not proud or, worse, feels shame around. Once that person works through it, the shame is gone and it’s now an experience from which that person in spirit learns and grows. In this way, the shame felt is merely one stage of the total human experience.
The second level to your question has to do with the relationship between the spirit and the soul. The spirit to the soul is like a wave to the ocean. The spirit of a hypothetical person, say Joe, is just one aspect of the soul (Joe’s higher self). To the soul connected to Joe, a choice and action of Joe’s here on the physical plane is just another experience. Joe’s soul holds no judgement or even opinion of Joe’s choices and actions. They simply are. So the only reason that Joe’s spirit might feel shame around an experience at all is because of his connection to his human life, not his soul.
To take this one step further, the personality of Joe (the spirit of Joe) only exists as the part of the soul that experienced a human life as Joe. Joe’s soul is not named Joe, because Joe’s soul has had many lives–one as Joe, one as Sally, one as George, etc. Going back to the wave analogy, if the wave had a name (let’s say Wavvie), the ocean would not be Wavvie too. Wavvie would only exist during her limited experience as a wave. Once Wavvie hit the shore and her wave experience was over, she would be part of the ocean’s many wave experiences. So Joe’s shame about something he did during his human life only exists because he’s the spirit of a human. It’s the humanness of Joe’s spirit that feels the shame, not the soul from which he’s connected. But since the spirit of Joe never ceases to exist, that part of his soul continues to learn and grow from the spiritual realm by looking back at his life and by seeing how his choices/actions affected his loved ones both during and after his life as Joe.
This is a more advanced course on the afterlife. But I hope it’s helpful.
Warmly,
Bob
Thank you for this video. I came across this video because I have been suicidal for the past 3 years. I have chronic and severe pain. Unrelenting and vicious pain. I instinctively realized some of what you said already. I have always been a deep and spiritual person. I knew that I would not go to hell or be punished as if it were a crime but I also knew that there would have to be spiritual impact. What that impact might be is what led me here. Also in a strange way I didn’t want to let my spiritual guides down, as if I have made this very hard life and to cut out early would be like entering the afterlife with my tail between my legs and head down. With deep consideration of your words, I tried to connect to my guides and felt peace all over and happiness. It made me stronger to realize I can leave now and stop my suffering if I choose, to hang in there is my choice but I felt supported either way. It’s not a Disney movie, in 5 years or 20 years I may not be able to take it anymore, the physical pain I mean, but I think that my condition is so severe that I literally get credit for every day I make it.
Hi Valerie,
I have sincere compassion for your situation. Thank you for sharing your experience. What an amazing and inspiring response you had to this video. Your meditation is in direct alignment with everything I’ve learned and would expect. And I agree with you that if we weren’t gaining in some way on a soul level, we wouldn’t still be here. While we, as humans, might never know why our souls chose the lives we are experiencing, we will certainly know one day and benefit from our courage to remain. You must be an incredibly courageous soul to have signed up for the life you now know. In fact, I think you’re a courageous and inspiring human being.
Warmly,
Bob
PS, I encourage you to write your story to inspire others and pass down what you have learned from your life.
Bob, my son committed suicide 3 weeks ago. I’m trying to find answers why, but I’m sure I will never know why. I found your page and what you had said gave me hope that one day I will see my son again in the spiritual world. I just have a quick question. For many many years I had a vision that I would find one of my sons hung. Many times when going into their bedrooms that image would come to my head. It happened, I found my son hung. Could you explain this? What is a premonition or something like that happened in one of my previous lives according to you. Please respond.
Hi Jackie,
I’m very sorry to learn about your tragic loss, and so recently. To answer your question, the best anyone can do is guess, but my guess would be that you are working out some past-life karma. What this means is that you might have experienced something in a past life related to suicide, possibly by hanging. Perhaps you took your own life this way and now you’re learning compassion for those you left behind. Or perhaps you lost a son in a past life and reacted in a way that your soul preferred you didn’t, so this life you’re having the opportunity to respond differently. If this is the case, the hanging you saw in your vision might have been the one from that past life. It’s not always possible for us to differentiate the concept of “son” from one life to another–our brains often take the scene from the past life and put people from this life into it. So interpreting your vision could go in several directions.
It’s also possible that you have some psychic ability. But even if this were the case, it wouldn’t mean that you had any ability to prevent it. In fact, my experience with this from a spiritual perspective is that loved ones have no ability to prevent suicides even with a premonition. The free will choice was your son’s to make. He was exercising the ability that God gave him to take his own life. Now, given that result, the best that you can do is use your free will to choose how you will respond to this tragedy. You can choose to let it destroy you or choose to let it teach you how valuable and precious life is. I’ve seen parents who lose children in this way do both. But what I would guess that your soul wants, especially if you are repeating this from a past life, is to respond to this tragedy in a way that is most loving to you and your family.
I know a common occurrence when parents lose their children is focus on the child who passed and lose focus on the child (or children) who are still alive. Hypothetically, that might have been what you did in the past life. Just the fact that you have been drawn to this video and are emailing me indicates to me that your response this time around will be a healthier, more loving experience for everyone. You might want to watch more Afterlife TV videos, and I recommend you read two books by Robert Schwartz, 1) Your Soul’s Plan, and 2) Your Soul’s Gift. They both talk about suicide in a way that I believe will be helpful to you. And, finally, once you’ve had proper time to grieve your son’s passing, you might consider a past-life regression. I recommend a woman named Nancy Canning from Cape Code (she can do it via Skype). But there are many qualified people around the country, as well.
I hope this is helpful Jackie. Again, I’m really sorry for your loss.
Warmly,
Bob