“In this video report, I cover the subject of suicide from many different angles. Based on the evidence of my 13-year investigation into the afterlife, I share with you in this video what happens when people who have committed suicide return home to the spirit world, the consequences of their act, whether or not they go to a place some people might call hell, how their suicide affects their soul and their soul’s growth, how their pre-birth choices are connected to their suicide, and even how free will comes into play. If you have lost someone because they took their own life or you are merely curious about this subject, this video promises to be thought-provoking, insightful and comforting.” ~ Bob Olson, Afterlife TV
Bob Olson talks about suicide and the afterlife.
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This is yet another example of clarification, in terms of “what happens” once we die, be it from “natural causes” or from suicide. Your explanation makes perfect sense, Bob. The Life Review would put things in focus for those individuals who take their own lives. I would think that the lessons that those particular souls wanted to learn would present themselves again in another lifetime. I wonder if the “same” circumstances would present themselves as a test, so to speak, until those souls figure out a more effective means of getting through the issues that caused them to commit suicide in the first place?
Thanks for another great video, Bob. Keep ’em coming! I can’t get enough of them!
I always appreciate your enthusiasm, Linda.
Thank you,
Bob
iv read thing bout after suicide and i failed to save my dads life wen he killed himself,i know wat i wud say is that magic that can happen after that is like above what god can do,its like a spirit that is psycic like it knows the future and protects you when people have tried to harm you
Thanks for your comment DJ,
Warmly,
Bob
Hello Bob! I was trying, unsuccessfully, on facebook, to find the postings of my f/b friends, and then suddenly there you are. I have no doubt that my spirit guides made sure I found you, because it must be time for me to renew my fascination with the afterlife. My interest began in 1978 when I worked as a Hospice RN and found Raymond Moody’s work. My small research project while at school involved interviewing people who had died and then were revived. I later became a psychiatric RN and worked with many who attempted suicide, and knew quite a few who later left the hospital and successfully suicided. There is so much fear and confusion about suicide. This was such a great presentation! I look forward to delving into your archives, and feel like a kid in a candy store. Two of my favorite all-time books are Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls. The info in those books helped me “flesh out” (LOL)the experience between lifetimes so that I know what to expect. It’s so comforting. Anyway, finding your site is a superb New Year’s gift.
Hi Laurel,
Big gratitude for your kindness and for sharing your story. I, too, read Michael Newton’s books and loved them. And Raymond Moody’s “Life After Life” was one of the first books I read on the afterlife.
Thanks for your comment,
Bob
Bob,
Again another great video. You have brought out everything I believe about suicide and much what I have always believed; but you have put it all together. Like someone else has commented; “clarification”.
Even though I have always since a child believed in Spirits and much of what others laugh at; I really like your site because you were such a sceptic. As you very well know, there are many scam artists out there who can ruin “the good news” of life after death for other people. All I ever wanted was the absolute truth, whatever it was, even as a child. Thankyou so much for your practicality and integrity as always.
Janie.
You’re welcome Janie,
It’s really nice to have my work appreciated in such a well thought out manner. My gratitude to you.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob – I just happened upon your site as it was listed as an advertisement on facebook. My father committed suicide when I was a teenager and I could never forget that someone told me that those that commited suicide went to hell. Then more recently my 19 year old son committed suicide. It brought up all the questions again. I couldn’t see my son burning in hell for all eternity, the loss is hard enough, to even remotely try to think that is where he would end up was heartbreaking in the extreme. I’ve not been extremely religious since my father’s death 26 years ago and lost what faith I had in God back then but my son’s death has brought me in search of my spirituality (not quite one for organized religion). But of course this looming question of what happens to those of suicide has haunted me after my son’s death. I’d spoken to 2 different pyschics and both gave me the same type of information, that they go through this transition phase where they have to relive their life and their choices. Your report just confirms this for me and let me tell you, after being told this is how it is from 3 different sources, it gives me such a sense of relief. I can finally let go of that thought that they are both burning in hell for a choice they made in this life. I can find peace knowing they aren’t any different than anyone else, they just have a little more to answer for. This is the first thing I’ve read on your page and look forward to reading more. Thank you so much for giving me an even greater sense of peace in the loss of my son with this report.
Hi Amber,
It’s people like you that I was thinking about when I created that video. I applaud your efforts to learn more about this subject and I’m glad you’re finding answers. Your soul has chosen a difficult path with two suicides to grieve, so you have my compassion for your journey. Thanks for telling your story and reminding me, once again, why I do this.
My warmest regards,
Bob
Kudos Bob. My heart is with you Amber. I appreciate your strength.
Amber,
I would like to say that there is no hell not even for suicides. I have communicaited with a spirit that died by overdose of drugs and he was very chatty after. He spoke not only to me 2 days after his death but with his father. I am so sorry that you had to suffer for so long. My heart goes out to you.
I have never seen a case were the spirit was in some purgitory.My late husband was a suicide and he has communicated with me when I could handle it. In some cases they can’t or don’t come because it may not be benificial to you at that time or you are not open to recieve. But I am sure they were trying to talk to you but because you were what I would call under the religious influence were you may have not recognized it. I am sure if you think back that you would find many occasions that you had a strong sensations or dreams or smells that made you think of your son or father. That is them trying to comfort you and reasure you.
I hope this helps you with your grief….I can promiss you that your son is with your father and they are happy in the afterlife.
Donna
Hi Donna,
I appreciate your comments.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Donna, my Husband committed suicide at the age 37 I and his family miss him so much, I think I feel him sometimes, I dream about him all the time, but I want him to communicate in a way I know its not just my mind playing tricks, I feel guilt every day as I found him and could not save him because it was to late, If I found him just a Couple of minuets sooner i could have saved him but I was too late. I want him to come back to me.
Hi Antoinette,
That was nice of you to write to Donna. I’d like to add to you, however, that I don’t believe you could have saved your husband. The Universe is infinitely powerful and intelligent. If you were meant to save your husband, you would have. It was his free will to take his life, and so he did that. No doubt part of your experience in all this (from which to learn and grow) is to believe in your heart that you had no control over that outcome. It serves no one for you to feel guilty. And your spiritual growth lesson in this lifetime (at least one of them) is to know this in your heart. I sincerely hope you can break free of this guilt and trust that the Universe would have helped you get there sooner if it were meant to be. I’m so very sorry for your loss.
You might want to watch my interview with Bill Guggenheim, titled Hello From Heaven, and my interview with Dave Kane, titled Signs From Spirit, for more info on the signs and signals our loved ones in spirit send us.
My warmest wishes to you,
Bob
Thank you for a very insightful video – for me, it has given me clarification about my beliefs and feelings. I have recently been following my heart and soul and to truly let my feelings come forward and expand. Thank you for sharing.
Cheryl
Hi Cheryl,
That’s wonderful news. What you just wrote there can be life changing. Thanks for telling me this.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi, Bob,
I appreciated the video you put up on suicide. My brother took his own life in 2008. It has been very difficult for my family. I’m glad you could help people have a greater understanding on this issue.
Sincerely,
Gayle Kirk
Psychic Medium
Hi Gayle,
Well there’s something I did not know. So very sorry to learn that about your brother, Gayle. I’m glad you appreciate the video. It came from my heart; that is, it was just something I knew I had to do. It certainly puts your work into a very empathic perspective, doesn’t it? My best wishes for you and your family in your grief.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob, Excellent. I was surfing for life after death and scanned through many sites.What i found was very depressing, about different planes and the seven planes of Hell etc. I am an ordinary human being like most with good and bad points with the motto ‘ if you cant do good to a person dont do bad ‘
I beleive in God and love him. I keep contemplating about things and about the existence of Hell, my logic said ‘ Everyone says God is all loving, merciful, we are a part of him etc. etc. I beleive this. Then if we are children of God, whatever mistakes we do, will he damn us for eternity to Hell and disown us. Never.
I think it was providence that brought me to your site and after viewing your video i am so releived that i cant put it in words. Your voice had an authentic ring and confidence that only a person who speaks from true knowledge has. I felt very comforted. Thank You. I shall now go through all the material on your site.
Warm Regards and keep comforting distressed souls.
Thank you Prem,
Your words warm my heart and remind me why I do this. Much gratitude for taking the time to comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Awesome!
Thank you Brion,
I like it when one word says all that needs to be said.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob
Just come across your site.Really wonderful find.I was wondering if you have transcripts of your videos as where I am in the world,we are limited to the internet and download /videos so we cannot play videos of 30 minutes and more.I would want to read more on your posts by topics if possible.
Thank you
Cindy
Hi Cindy,
We have transcripts of all Afterlife TV interviews. You can get to them via a link under each video or see them all listed here: http://www.afterlifetv.com/category/transcripts/
Warmly,
Bob
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Thank you so much! I was wandering through scriptures, masters ,scholars ..to see why suicide is treated so badly by God..I am a follower of Vedanta who strongly believes that the “Soul” you mentioned in this post has a high level of attainment (which mostly referred to as God).But then no masters made sense to me when the whole model was presented as teaching exercise by Merciful God. Then Mercy should mean something else, which is not the case as it is self evident. However, the explanations you put here do confirm the idea that God is endlessly merciful that He lets us choose what we want to experience and probably after each death, we are elevated to a state that we ourselves take up our roles next time ..till our desires for experiences are exhausted and find final refuge in Him..Its a neat deal to put in place while playing our shot, not to interfere with others without their permission..So it makes sense why being harmless to others is an ethic…and that explains why no one can really justify suicide since it is going to hurt some for sure…But it never made sense to me that suffering souls will be lead to more suffering by Merciful God after that act..I was restlessly searching for an answer for weeks and I found this..My gratitude and humble pranams !
Prayers
Meera
Hi Meera,
That’s wonderful that this video helped you. You did a great job working your way through this subject using a paradigm that makes sense to you. And I appreciate that you have presented us with your thought process on this. Once again, thanks for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob,
I stumbled onto your website when I was looking to attach information on my newly formed Blog about life after death. I have had a fascination with the other side as long as I’ve been alive,. I just didn’t recognize it as that when I was younger. As long as I can remember, I have been searching for answers to life. I feel a very strong need to share some of my experiences with others and them with me.
I am one of the suicide survivors that you talk about. I was 16 yrs old at the time maybe early 17. That part is not as important to me as my experience. Life was unbearable, it was the late 60’s, and drugs were all the rage. I became a part of that confusion and I saw no other solution to my pain. It was not a form of punishment for my loved ones. ( You were very correct about your comment that many people do not do this to hurt loved ones.) I simply could not handle life and felt there was no one to help me with my anguish. I saw no way out.
My cat, Miss Nibs, and I, were staying at my hippie boyfriend’s place while he was out of town for the evening. I was a professional dancer or “go-go” dancer at the time and drinking had already been a big part of my life for several years. Tack on the drug scene and I was an emotional, psychological mess.
To make short of a long story, I took a bottle of sleeping pills and washed it down with a bottle of beer. The next thing I remember was watching my life and the short time I had lived being downloaded into my mind. Afterwords it seemed to me like I was surrounded by blackness or space.
In this blackness or space, I was contacted by a male voice. Although it wasn’t really a voice like we use to communicate. It was more like a communication of mind to mind. He spoke and said, ” It is not your time to die. You are being given a choice to live or die.” If I chose life, he told me my life would be “very” difficult but if I could hang in there it would all be worth my while, however, if I chose death and it was not my time… There suddenly appeared before me a visual door that opened to show me what would happen. I do remember it was so horrible that I put my hand up and said, no, out loud. It was an easy choice for me to make at that point. Obviously I had chosen life as I’m hear to tell my story. ( I must tell you that I have never been able to remember what I saw or experienced behind that door. )
As soon as that conscious decision was made, I was left alone and I had a wonderful feeling of just being in space. I remember thinking how I now understood the mysteries of life. It was so simple. We all made it so complicated for ourselves in life. ( That information was taken from me as well once I was back on this side.) My next thought was the knowledge that I could travel anywhere in the Universe that I wanted to go. All I had to do was think about it and I knew I would be there. For some reason I was scared by that thought and I wasn’t ready for that, so I intentionally focused my thoughts on my boyfriend coming home. Of all the silly things to think about, I remember thinking, geez, I have got to finish the dishes before he gets back from his trip.
There I was -suddenly in the kitchen at the sink and I felt euphoric. I felt electric. More alive than ever in my life .I also felt like I was floating above the floor. I remember thinking how strange that was but nice. I could hear a couple talking on the street, which was weird because we were in a third floor apartment down a long hallway at the back of the building and I could never hear that kind of thing before.
My next thought was to go into the living room / bedroom where as hippies, we had a large mattress on the floor to sleep on or sit on. I turned to look in the room and shock hit me when I saw my body lying on the bed. My poor cat, Miss nibs, was next to my head batting at it as though to try and wake me. Her fur was on end, she was meowing and she looked panicked which was how I suddenly felt. I could not accept the possibility of my being over there on the mattress, dead.
I suddenly was sitting up on the bed, picking up my poor cat, trying to comfort her as well as myself. That’s not the end of the story but it is all that matters for now.
I want to comment about your video on suicide. You have a wonderful knack for what you do. I was enthralled with what you have to say as it affects my life as well. It’s been over 40 years ago since my suicide incident and life has taken many twists for me. I wish I could say that my experience had made a dramatic change in my choices right away, but for many years I continued to make the same mistakes and all the wrong choices in life. I had no help and no one to go to. Eventually, because I was seeking the right answers I found them for myself. That was another lifetime ago and that male voice was right. My life is very difficult. I suffer with serious medical issues and much pain. However i have learned much on my journey and feel much joy with life. I feel I understand the basics of life because of my spiritual awakenings. ( That was only one of many.) I am fascinated with learning about life on the other side and I want to share my experiences with others so that they too can glean information to go on with what I now believe to be a completion of our soul’s journey.
We do all affect one another and there are actually days when I feel so in touch with the Universe that I feel absolutely complete. I also started to have the thought a few years ago that I’m in the last stages of this life and it’s important to me to reach out to help others if I can.
I want you to know that for many years I was afraid to tell my story because of the negative effects it could possibly have on the survivors of suicide victims. But the thought has run through my mind over the years -what if that male voice was using this door that was opened to show me what would happen if I chose to die by suicide- was done simply to scare me into making the right choice for myself? A friend of mine says the door I viewed could have been the feelings of regret I would have experienced if I had continued on with suicide. Maybe it’s a little of both. You mention this in your video. She suggested I read the Journey of Souls and the Destiny of Souls by Michael Newton. I devoured those books. I suggested to her the book, Many Lives, Many Masters by Brian Weiss as an excellent source of info. A woman Dr. I worked with over 5 yrs ago suggested that book when I told her my story one day through conversation and it opened up a whole new avenue for me.
We are all in this together and It blows me away to think of how exciting it is to get little pieces of information from different authors and web sites and friends and how all my questions are being answered. The puzzle is slowly coming together. I just want to say thanks for your knowledge and ability to bring that info to me. You have a wonderful gift to share. This was a bit more than I intended to write but…
Thanks,
Marlene
Hi Marlene,
What an incredible story. Thank you for sharing it with everyone. Your story teaches a great deal, including the fact that one can have a near-death experience like this and still go on to live with many challenges. Some people believe life is easier after an NDE, but that’s not always (or even often) the case. There’s a lot more to learn from what you’ve written, but I’m just going to keep my comments to myself and let people absorb what they will. I appreciate your comments and story. And I wish you the very best.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob, I just read this story from Marlene in which she had this to say:
[quoting Marlene]
Doesn’t his contradict what you say in your video about how suicides are met with love and caring. Here Marlene states that what she saw was horrible. Her experience brings up a lot of fear and uncertainty in me. Can you comment more on her experience?
Hi Mr. Williams,
I’m sorry to learn about your struggles. I read both your comments (one which was not published because it contains a lot someone else’s copyrighted material). And while I know it’s not what you’re seeking, I make no promises as to what is true regarding the afterlife. I begin and end this video stating that everyone must investigate these questions for themselves and not adopt my truth as their own. In matters of the afterlife, no one knows the absolute truth. And I’m certainly no expert on Jesus’ teachings, so I definitely cannot comment there. I do believe in “some” of what was written in Michaels’ material, but there’s also much with which I disagree. My own evidence has indicated that we do not escape consequences for taking our own life, but now I’m just repeating what I said in the video.
If you are looking for advice from me, it would be to focus more on ways to turn your life around into a more positive and purposeful existence. Don’t give up and ask for help from people who can give it. I truly believe that you came into this world to live life out to it’s natural end and to overcome whatever challenging circumstances you meet. That is what I believe your soul desires–that is what I believe all our souls desire. There are many stories of people who have suffered a great deal and chose to turn their lives around in this way. And I believe it would serve you well to focus your energies on this intention. You could then inspire others with your story.
If you are contemplating suicide, I highly recommend that you visit http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or http://www.suicidehotlines.com and I recommend counseling or assistance from a mental health professional. Hospital emergency rooms in most cities can usually help too. I’ve dealt with clinical depression in my own life many years ago, so I know how helpful these resources can be.
My very best wishes to you,
Bob
Hello Bob,
Happened to come across you website via Facebook. This brings me great comfort to know this about when someone commits suicide as I have lost my husband on June 20, 2009 to suicide. Thank you so much!! Will be posting this video on my Facebook page.
Hi Cathy,
I am most sorry about your husband. But I’m happy to hear this video has brought you comfort. And I appreciate you sharing it on Facebook.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob
My only Son committed suicide on June 30 , 2012 so it’s only 3 weeks ago ,he was suffering with depression ,I believe brought on by loosing his dad at a young age . I don’t have strong religious beliefs and wonder if there is a god how can he do this to me ? I must say your video has give me so much comfort to all the anguish and suffering I’m going through . . your simply Medicine , Thank you x
Hi Alison,
I am most sorry to learn about your son’s recent passing. Please watch the video more than once if you helps. I created it with people like you in mind. Please know that your son is aware of your pain due to his loss and he can hear you when you talk to him. Go ahead and talk right out loud to him, and then watch for the subtle signs that he sends to show his is with you (lights flickering, birds at your window, special songs playing on the radio, aromas in the air that remind you of him).
May the world hold you gently in its arms in your grief.
Warmly,
Bob
Dear alison, i want to thank you for sharing the loss of your son. I also lost my grandson this last december and could not make any sense of it. This video seems to help me very much. This word to let you know that i hope that this is so and that your son is well and knows how much he is loved. In friendship and support, Mike
Bob:
I just recently found your podcasts and listened to a couple that I found inspiring. One was What happens to People When They Commit Suicide, and the other was an interview of the director of The Astral City.
I am just now watching The Astral City, and it seems to completely defy (at least I’ve only watched the first 10 minutes) all the comforting things you reported that happened to people when they commit suicide. It does not look like anything that would bring comfort to survivors of a suicide.
What should we believe? The report or the movie (which was based on a medium’s book)?
Thank you,
Hi C. Buck,
Actually, if you watch the rest of that interview, you’ll see there’s a lot more to the purgatory scene and message from that movie. One can interpret from that movie that the main character was simply experiencing what he expected to experience; that is, until he asked for help–then everything changed. But that’s just one interpretation.
What makes your question important, however, is that I don’t always agree with everything that my guests have to say, nor do my guests agree with all that one another teaches. The point of Afterlife TV is that there is no such thing as what you “should believe.” The point of Afterlife TV is for you to become aware of the different evidence and beliefs that exist in order that you make up your own mind. Since spirituality is subjective, that’s all we have–to make our own choices and draw our own conclusions.
What I can tell you is that my own conclusions, which are based on my personal investigation of the afterlife since 1999, are shared in my video reports–the videos I create where it’s just me talking to you, the audience. If there’s ever a conflict between something one of my guests teach and what I say in my video reports, you’ll know where I stand based on my reports. This does not make one person right and another wrong. It’s merely different experiences that lead to different interpretations and conclusions. No one will really know what the absolute truth is about life after death until we return there. So we’re all just making educated guesses. I personally lean on evidence based on practicality and logic. Others lean on what is backed up by science. Others lean on other factors.
I hope this is helpful to you. Thanks for your insightful question.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob, I just wanted to thank you for your video regarding suicide and the after life. Today I received the news that my sister-in-law’s mother had taken her life. Needless to say, it was very disturbing news and I have been struggling with my feelings and emotions around this issue ever since. Shortly after I heard the news, I began realizing how conflicted I felt about her suicide and what I had been taught (told) my entire life about this topic. I went on the internet to see what I could come up with and find. I came across your video which appealed to me, primarily because it was first time I have ever heard or seen anyone speak at length about this topic. Typically, suicide is not something that most people want to spend a great deal of time thinking or talking about. Your video on this topic has given me a sense of comfort, peace, and clarity. I also feel that your video on this matter will help guide me and help me reconcile my feelings and views around this. I know she was struggling with a few things prior to her taking her life and the thought of her being in a place where there are people who are loving and comforting her is very helpful for me. She was a good person who loved her family and people in general. Thanks again.
You’re welcome, Travis,
I’m sorry to learn about your sister-in-law’s passing. But I’m glad my video added some insight and comfort to you. Be gentle with yourself during this time of grief. And thank you for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob,
I lost my only Son one month ago. He took his life after four years battling a heroin addiction. He was an absolutely brilliant man who made some bad choices. His tragic end has been devastating to my family.
In any event I was searching on google and came across your site. I am somewhat skeptical about many things after breaking away from my religious faith. My foundational construct was based on a particular belief and after years of study I departed from what I call fear-based religion. I really appreciated your non-secular video on what happens to us when we depart and those who have taken their life. It feels natural and right to me.
Thank you for sharing!
All the best,
Dave
Hi Dave,
First, I am really sorry to learn about your son’s passing. Heroin destroys many lives and many families. I’m pleased to see that your words are understanding of your son’s challenges, choices and how they led to his final act. And I’m glad that my video has resonated with you. My very best wishes for you and your family in the coming years.
Warmly,
Bob
my 20 year old son took his own life on december 2011. I cry and i miss him everyday.I am in so much pain my baby. I loved him with all my heart and everything I had but it was obviously not enough.I was not agood enough mum. I dont understand .
Hi Tops,
I’m so sorry to learn about your son’s passing. I obviously don’t know the details of your son’s passing, but there are many reasons why people take their own life. And if you loved your son and showed him love, there are likely other reasons why he made the choices that he did. I highly recommend seeking support for yourself through the Compassionate Friends organization at CompassionateFriends.org, which offers grief support for those who have lost children (of any age) from others who have lost children too. I’m sure there are people there who have lost children due to suicide. Be gentle with yourself and reach out for assistance.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob,
Thank you for the perspective you have opened in this video.
I have felt the potential for suicide very strongly for a long time and actually arrived on this page today while researching for ‘what I’m getting into’ as I feel very close to departure. But you seem to magnify the tiny whisper inside to stop and see the bigger picture. You have helped me remember, you have helped me see beyond the seemingly endless confusion of suffering.
Please continue this important research. It let’s the light in.
Thank you
Hi Skolan,
I appreciate that you get this important point. I believe as you have seen it, that it teaches everyone to see the bigger picture. And when we get a glimpse of life and the afterlife in this way, it gives one a real and true reason for persisting in this physical world. We each have purpose and meaning here, and we often only realize or recognize this in our selves after great struggle or lengthy suffering. As you wrote so eloquently, we must see beyond the seemingly endless confusion of suffering in order to see the light. Then, just as we are ready to give up, if we can muster the strength to continue and move forward, the truth becomes apparent just beyond where most people give up. This is the point where life begins anew for those who don’t give up (I speak from personal experience).
Thank you for your email. It means a lot to me. Perhaps one day you will find a way to reach out to those contemplating suicide to help them see a higher perspective too. With your talent in writing, a book about your experience might be in order.
Warmly,
Bob
This all makes sense to me. I’ve heard the stories about Gods, Goddesses, the believes of various religions, but this is the first one that I believe without significant doubt. This is the first video I’ve seen and I find it amazing how well this connects with all my pre-beliefs and thoughts. Thank you for sharing your ideas and information, Bob. You’ve brought me great comfort and inner peace. (Man that last sentence sounds corny now that I read it)
Hi Elizabeth,
There’s nothing corny about it. You are in good company with many of our Afterlife TV viewers. I hope you enjoy more of my videos. Thanks for your kindness.
Warmest wishes,
Bob
Hello Bob,
Thank you so much for putting together such a wonderful summary of your findings. I find that when I research these topics, people often go too far into detail in explanations that seem unreal to me (e.g. Jesus wears a purple robe, everybody has wings of varying size, and there are cinnamon bubs the size of diner plates!) and I just end up losing confidence in the whole thing. When I hear something like this, I agree with every single word and can see it as being natural and believable; it even seems obvious when I listen to it. That really allows me to feel like I’ve gained some sure footing on the topic and it brings me back to the state of mind I need to be in right now.
A little under two weeks ago, my dad committed suicide. He was 50 years old, and I am currently 23. He suffered for a very long time with severe depression, even going through about 18 electroshock treatments. The loss of his mother contributed to the onset of his depression, so I know that I must find peace in this situation to keep my mental health. There have been many communications with him, so clearly showing that he still has his sense of humor and is with his mother again. One of them was an undeniable life changing experience where he answered a question with the song ‘mama I’m coming home’.. I am so grateful that he gave us the chance to experience that as I now know that he is ok and have walked away with solid faith in the after life.
Now I have just been exploring the options (what is it, where is he, is he happy?) and your video has really provided me with what feels like closure. I will play it as many times as I need to be reminded, and keep that faith with me that he is ok. The mental state that he suffered is beyond torment that I can imagine, seeing it firsthand I really felt like I lost my dad… Now I know he has been able to find himself again, and I am so grateful for that. He is back to his old self, making silly jokes again, like taking over our meticulously planned song list at his service and playing dancing queen (which nobody even downloaded!!) and making the cross fall during the service. I can tell his sense of humor remains and I am thankful for that.
Thank you again for providing me with a very important piece to the puzzle on my path to coming to terms with this. You have done a wonderful thing and will save many others from the terrible stories we have heard that our loves ones will suffer. I refuse to believe that and I hope many others come to realize it as well.
Hi Claudia,
First, please know that I’m sincerely sorry to learn about your father’s passing. This will be a life-long journey for you to deal with this, but I’m pleased to see that you are quickly on the right track — and you know that already. That will make all the difference.
Second, you are most welcome. However, I must thank you for reminding me the very reason I created this video report. It is for people just like you who have lost a loved one to suicide and are trying to make sense of all the garbage one hears and reads out there about suicide and the afterlife.
I might also add that your description of what you gained from this video and how it affected you is so articulately written. Be sure to keep a journal of your experience as a suicide survivor, if that interests you, as you might use it in the future as part of a book or workshop to help others in your situation. There’s certainly a need.
My warmest wishes to you,
Bob
PS, I have absolutely no doubt that your father has communicated to you from spirit in the many ways you described. Thanks for sharing that. And I love that you recognize his joy and continued humor. While this is confusing to many people who believe the more fearful messages, it is the perfect evidence for you that the investigation findings as stated in this video are accurate.
Bob, what you say makes so much sense to me. I believe in an afterlife, in fact I can’t imagine there could be any other way. I read so many conflicting accounts regarding what happens to someone who takes their own life. My gut feeling is that we are all different. No body really wants to kill themselves, it’s only that the challenges we all face in life can simply become to much to bear for some. Once a suicide passes over, I believe that there is total understanding, love, and compassion for that soul. This is the ultimate act, and is not done lightly. Not to mention the fact that either a permanent, or even temporary mental condition must be involved. Usually that would be a severe depression in most cases. Depression is a sickness, just like cancer, or anything else. Then there’s addictions as you point out. Any death is a tragedy for those left behind. What makes suicide different is that it is a conscious act, but when that consciousness is suffering so much there comes a tipping point.
Thanks Ronaldo,
I agree wholeheartedly. Thanks for your comments.
Warmly,
Bob
My son aged 22 hung himself two days ago, your words gave me so much comfort so thank you, my pain right now is nothing I have ever experienced, my two other sons found him which is so tragic and so painful, he left no note, i found out he had debt he couldnt cope with, he always came to me but not this time, no note no words, not even to friends, he just went, he was bright, caring and had a good future, something called him away, i doubt he meant it, i will tell him every day i forgive him and love him, i wish i could talk to him, rewind the last week, done something to stop this, i cant get out of my mind he hung there alone in the cold and darkness a vision that will never go away… I will sleep tonight or at least try knowing he was met with joy, that his pain has gone and loved ones will help him through, I will tell him I forgive him and love him to ease the pain he feels
Thank you for your words, thank you for helping me, you are an angel on this earth
Susan
Hi Susan,
I can’t express my heartfelt sympathy enough to you. Most people find my video months after their loved one passed; you found it in two days. I created it for people just like you who are suffering, confused and worried about their loved ones who took their own lives. Watch this video as many times as necessary to ease your heart.
And while you can’t get your son’s physical presence back, I’ve seen a great deal of evidence to know he is around you. And I’m sure that he is trying to get your attention so that you know it too. If you can believe it, just talk right out loud to him, trusting that he is there with you and listening. You might want to watch my video where I interview Bill Guggenheim about the signs our loved ones in spirit send us in order to let us know they’re around. You can currently find it on Afterlife TV’s home page. It’s titled Hello From Heaven.
Be gentle with yourself, Susan. And my condolences to your sons too; they will need your love through all this, no doubt. You can support one another.
Warmly,
Bob
bob my name is trevor my very close brother tyler had commited suicide he hung himself i wanted to let you know that i found a lot of comfort in this video i did have a question though i keep having dreams that i am talking to him and doing other things with him does this have any meaning
Hi Trevor,
When our loved ones in spirit come to us in dreams, these are known as “dream visitations.” Usually, these dreams are extremely vivid and memorable. People who have them say years later that they still remember them like they occurred the night prior. Our loved ones in spirit try to communicate with us in many ways. But dreams are often the easiest way for them to give us messages and ease our grief. So I would expect this is Tyler’s way of saying hello and letting you know that he’s okay and around you.
I’m sorry that you lost your brother, Trevor, but I’m pleased to see that he has found a way to show you he’s still with you.
Warmly,
Bob
thanks bob my mom has also been waking up at the same times everynight and she says she feels like someone is gently touching her face everynight what does this mean thank you
Hey Trevor,
Well, if it happened to me, I would interpret that as someone in spirit saying hello and comforting me. It seems like a lovely after-death communication.
Warmly,
Bob
Hello Bob.
My wife passed away by suicide a little over two months ago. I am only 27 and still have trouble fathoming that this has really happened to me at this age. We had so many plans and wishes for this life together, it all seems surreal. Your entire life comes crashing down in the course of a single day. I was the one that found her after I came home from work, and that moment can never be erased from my mind. I took it upon myself to take care of her after her passing, and basically directed her entire service on my own. This was very hard on me, but made me feel like I was still able to help her on some level. This also offered many moments of being able to say farewell in a “normal” way.
It has been an incredibly tough journey so far, to come to terms with everything that has culminated into her doing what she did to find her peace. I am not left with the initial shock driven guilt of not being at her side when she took her own life and being able to step in and stop it, which I am thankful for. She made it perfectly clear that the path she was on was unavoidable to her and that there was nothing I could do about this to influence her, if she were to go ahead and do such a thing. So basically she took away my guilt before I could have a chance to truly develop it. My wife was very intelligent to say the least and a truly wonderful human being. Sadly, though many moments of intense joy were not unfamiliar to her, she also had to endure severe mental unrest and suffering every day which was now also taking its toll physically. I tried to help her as best I could in dealing with it, but it was never enough to relieve her of her pain.
Where there is no guilt for me now, there is much disbelief like I stated before. I truly thought that her mental state would not push her this far and that she would overcome it in the end and kept telling myself this. My wife was a strong individual and had dealt with adversity on many occasions throughout her lifetime. I never really viewed suicide as a truly realistic outcome of the things she was suffering from on a daily basis, until after it had happened. I guess I didn’t want to believe it at the time, because I wouldn’t have been able to live my own life and would be overcome with constant worry. She held a very strong belief in God and after she passed, I found her bible with markers in it which she had left there, on a passage dealing with courage while dying.
Apart from this there have been many signs afterwards, things like her name popping up all over the place at random times while I’m trying to piece my life back together. There have also been some very vivid dreams. I am skeptical by nature and while her name is not standard, it is also not rare. While she was still alive it would also pop up every once in a while during my daily activities. “Dreams and emotions go hand in hand and you are preoccupied with her passing so you just notice things like her name more often than you normally would.” I explained to myself to try to rationalise things after being emotionally overwhelmed by them. So due to my skepticism I brushed these things aside as mere coincidence a little while after they first started happening, which just made it painful. Signs pointing to her were now little reminders of the situation I was in. Things didn’t stop however. Her name and references to times we shared kept coming to me randomly, almost daily. The signs were so relentless and came in such unique ways that I was starting to get baffled by it. They still come from time to time, just not as often as in the first month after her service.
Soon after I accepted these things as true signs, my spirituality became charged like never before. My own belief in a higher power is now stronger than ever. I kept scouring the internet on details about spiritual subjects and found this page when searching for suicide in connection to the afterlife. I have to say Bob; thank you for expressing your viewpoint in regards to this subject in this way. It strengthens my own because I know my wife is in a good place right now, I can literally feel that since the moment she passed away. It is hard to explain but I just know. I feel you are helping a lot of people including myself through these videos. You keep things sincere and don’t try to press anything on anybody and base your messages on logic and research, which is often the wisest road to take in my own opinion. Your words offered me a degree of comfort at a time when I really needed that encouragement to be able to stay on the positive side of things.
So thanks again Bob, I will be checking in on your site from time to time.
With kind regards,
David
Hi David,
I appreciate that you shared your experience with us so intimately. I’ve read your comment more than once, yet I don’t feel there is much for me to say. Your words alone have said so much that I don’t want to take away from them. Thank you for writing. My very best wishes for your journey of grief and growth.
Warmly,
Bob
Hello-Just watched your video and I enjoyed your insights. When you mentioned “free will” I was curious as to how that plays into a suicide that was forced opon yourself. For an example, if your purpose in this world was to save souls. You fullfill your purpose and find it has destroyed your life. The free will of your decisions that has saved others from harm has now brought destruction to you. How does that affect the after-life or does it?
Hi Atticus,
I’m not sure I fully understand your question, but here is my answer. Free will choices do not force anything upon one’s self. So if your free-will choice to fulfill what you believe is your life purpose leads to a negative outcome, it is still a free-will choice to take your own life. So I guess my answer is that this situation would not change anything I discussed in the video. I hope this is helpful.
Warmly,
Bob
Dear mr.olson,
My grandson, Yousef, decided to commit suicide on 4 dec 2012. He was only a little over 18 years old, drug free, didn’t drink or smoke and was a committed vegan which i accepted but did not support very much. We were able to extract his last messages to one of his friends minutes before he shot himself and his last words were that he wanted to sit alone and do this after he calmed himself. He also said that nothing could be done to change his decision. He gave no explanation, excuses or goodbyes. The only hint we have is that he sometimes said that he felt what he called a “sadness” but could not explain it. Anyway, my family has been destroyed and unable to understand his act. Your video and explanation has helped us tremendously in dealing with our grief. You have an uncanny gift to organize and put into words my basic beliefs. Your input has given me much to think about My daughter is the one who introduced me to your website and she also benefited greatly from the things you share with us. For easing our pain and helping us in forgiving his act, i and my family thank you. I will keep reading and support your website, Mike
Hello Mike,
I am deeply sorry about your tragic and recent loss. Your words are a great reminder to me about why I do this work. I will read it many times. Thank you for writing.
Warmly,
Bob
Dear Bob:
Is is possible that my desire to terminate life, is a result of past life experiences which ended in suicide? Since I was a young girl, I have imagined and even planned ending when I became older. I know I have mental illness, brain trauma and presently live with chronic pain. I have been in therapy and on medications that have not helped over the years. I talk about it with others. I have mentioned the desire to family and friends. I do what ever I can to be present, loving and engaged with life. My problems have not been temporary, and each day is a struggle. Thanks for your video. Is there an answer to my initial question?
Hi Patricia,
Yes, it’s quite possible that you had a past life that ended in suicide, which could be why you feel this way. It might also be why you’ve signed up for so many challenges in this life–to overcome the temptations you feel to balance the karma of a past life. I too lived with thoughts of suicide for most of my life. I thought they were normal. In my early thirties, I mentioned to my wife how most people have suicidal thoughts and she said, “No Bob, most people do not have suicidal thoughts.” I don’t feel them any more. At one point, perhaps in my early forties, they dissipated.
I truly believe that our soul’s desire is for us to not take our own life, to persist in spite of our pain and suffering. So I hope that you are able to live the rest of your life without giving in to the temptation. Because you are here, you are so much more valuable to the world than you will ever know. Every kind word you give to someone, every smile, every random act of kindness, sends waves of love and goodness across the world, touching every human being. We are not meant to see this in action necessarily, but my research into the afterlife has provided me with immense evidence of such. So don’t think that your presence here is without value.
You don’t need to be rich, famous, healthy or popular to positively affect the world. Just by staying alive, being present (as you mentioned), and enjoying whatever moments of life you are able, you are serving humanity. Each day you stay alive, overcoming the challenges you are facing, is a testament to the power of the human spirit. Your loved ones in spirit and spirit guides are cheering for you, even when you feel totally alone. That is the challenge of the human life–moving forward without truly knowing that we are loved and connected to the Universe, to the spirits who guide us, and to every other human being.
As a little exercise, which you might already do, set the intention via prayer, or simply by talking to God (The Universe), that you will overcome whatever challenges are before you. Furthermore, set the intention that you know peace, joy, health and abundance. Say it in the present moment, as if it is already true, because the Universe knows no time. And let the Universe know each day what you are grateful for in your life at any moment. It can be something big like a day without a suicidal thought or something small like the joy you feel while watching a puppy walk by you on the street. Half of life is focusing on the gifts that bring us joy, because the struggles are more likely to get our attention.
My very best wishes to you, Patricia,
Bob
Bob,
Your response to Patricia was so beautifully expressed, I just had to make a comment. I work at a large corporation dealing with vision health and I love to hear the positive comments from people that take the time to stop in just to say how wonderful it is to work with me. We need to hear those affirmations. It helps to keep us balanced. You truly do so much good with your website and the positive information that you share with everyone. I can feel people gaining insight and expanding their thinking through the knowledge you share from your interviewed guests and own personal experiences. I know I sure have.
I love listening to the interviews, reading each person’s comments, and your replies. You make so many good points …!
Thank you for being “here.”
Marlene
Hi Marlene,
I appreciate your comment because I never know if anyone else ever reads my replies. The fact that you took this time out of your busy life to acknowledge me and my work is evidence in itself of what I tried to convey to Patricia–the immense power we each have to positively affect the world each and every day. I’m most grateful to you, and your kind words motivate me in my work more than you know.
My best wishes to you,
Bob
Dear Bob:
I wanted to thank you for your response. Your identification with me helped to humanize my own angst and continue to resist lower power urges such as suicide. Your support and encouragement were significant. I am in a different place with those suicidal thoughts of mine. I just accept them however do not play with them anymore. I entertain more of the idea that life is worth living whether I feel that way or not. Prayer, meditation and my connection with others all help strengthen my spirit which enables me to thrive.
I wasn’t intending to write you this morning. Your website popped up and I reread our correspondence. I am grateful to you.
all the best,
Patricia
Hi Patricia,
I always loving hearing from you. Thanks for taking the time to write. You’ve brightened my day! And I’m happy to hear that you’ve learned how to thrive in spite of those thoughts. You should be very proud of yourself… I’m proud of you. Keep smiling.
Warmly,
Bob
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Bob,
Love your videos!
Fifty years ago, I lost my father to suicide due to mental illness. Recently, I unexpectedly received a visit from him in my meditation explaining to me what happens to those afflicted with physical and mental illnesses. First of all, he looked remarkably happy and peaceful. Not at all what he looked like when he was suffering from major clinical depression. He also told me how all our illnesses, sufferings, and struggles that occurred in this world dissipate as soon as you enter the spirit realm. As for his suicide, I think it was part of the learning experience and plan for all those involved in his life. Ironically, my relationship with my father in spirit is actually closer than when he was on earth and very ill. It also brings me peace “knowing” that he is doing well and will always be in my life.
Hi Karen,
Wow, thank you for sharing your story. When a child loses a parent, it’s a life-long journey working through that. When a child loses a parent to suicide, it’s ever more profound. I’m happy to hear that your father visited you in your meditation. What a wonderful gift. Thanks for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob:
I’m a medium and I really don’t know quite where to begin, but above all I want to congratulate you on serving others in the way you are doing–it’s wonderful! It not only provides great information about the afterlife, but a forum where people get to share their own experiences. You don’t just spout facts, you put faces on them with your own experiences those of your guests, and these comments from readers, which is really the best way to teach. I teach mediumship and write and teach about past lives, especially past life therapy, My web sites both contain interview articles about past life therapists, especially ones who pioneered the past life therapy method on the west coast. When I’m asked by grieving people about suicides–about what a suicide experiences after death and why anyone would do such a thing, why they don’t think of others, etc., all that is very beautifully laid out in this piece of yours about suicide, so now I have a wonderful place I can send them for information about these things. So glad you bring up the inter-life period and past lives and especially that suicide is among the possible choices that are actually laid out before we are born and that past life may play a large part in it. Hooray! A potential client to whom I said I could not give the kind of reading she wanted said that you had mediums listed who could! She must have been sent to me so I would find your site and get to praise your work and take advantage of your expertise when I’m faced with explaining suicide. I’ve been keeping the facts about both past life experience, as well as inter-life previewing, separate from my explanations to those who get in touch with me because of the suicides of their beloved friends and family members. Now I can say that not only do I believe this, but so does an un-ideological, fair-minded researcher and tell them where to find this video. I’ll be back to see other interviews–I can see that, thanks to you, this is about to become what I do for relaxation! My first newspaper column was a quiz about parapsychology because I was a skeptic to begin with. Thank you more than I can say!
Hi Pat,
All I can say is thank you for all that you’ve written. So well articulated. I’m honored by your words.
Warmly,
Bob
Hello Bob,
Thank you for this insightful video.
Whenever I have discussed the topic of suicide with a friend, the notion of karmic responsibility has always come up as a strong argument for living. I’m wondering, has your research come across evidence that a spirit is condemned to repeat trials in its next incarnation if suicide is chosen? Say someone made a terrible mistake or suffers a terrible affliction and commits suicide, are they forced to repeat the same problems or worse in their next life to balance their karma and overcome the lesson in that suffering?
Hi Jarek,
There are no absolutes when it comes to the afterlife. So much depends upon the life lived and the intentions of the soul for that lifetime.
I do realize that many people teach this idea that you described. But I have not seen any evidence of it, personally. Meaning, I have not had a person in spirit (via a medium) say that this was the case; I have not “known” this in a life-between-lives regression; I have not even had a channel say it is so when channeling wisdom from group entities (not to say that channels have never said this, just not in my presence). Therefore, until I personally have evidence that this is true, I have to assume that it could happen in some cases, if the spirit chooses; but that it is not an absolute in every reincarnation.
I definitely would never use the word “forced” when referring to a soul’s choices in the afterlife. However, I can see why a soul might want to repeat “similar” (rarely the exact same) challenges. And I also don’t think of lessons as being “overcome,” but rather “experienced”–we learn from every experience, whether we overcome our challenges or not. I’d even go so far as to say that the purpose of life is to have physical experiences, which is why we can never fail. Even a poor choice that leads to negativity is still an experience that benefits us as souls because we learn from the infinite possibilities of any experience.
I also refer to what I said in this video about “potentials,” as I think this too is relevant to my answer (the idea that a person comes into a life with the potential to take their own life).
I hope this is helpful to you, Jarek. Your question is actually brilliantly in-depth, and I know many people have wondered the same. Thank you for your articulately written comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob
thank you so much for speaking so clearly and made it easy for me to understand very well about the spiritual and afterlife world
I am not very good in writing in English I’m from Vietnam I hve never thouht of any American would believe in spiritual and afterlife world and you explain very well thank you again but I’d like to ask you about the people whom commit suicide is that act came with their soul’s plans? be cause I know a pator in a church I visited not long ago he commited suicide I thought he would know better not to do it took his own life.
I love your video I watch listen one after another.
Hi Yen,
I did mention this in this video on suicide, but let me write it briefly here, as well. I believe that some people come into this lifetime with the “potential” to take their own life. Whether they do or not is a matter of their free will as physical, human beings. So it is not their soul plan to necessarily take their own life. But it is their soul plan to be challenged with suicidal thoughts or tendencies.
I do believe, too, that every soul hopes to overcome these tendencies and the challenges that tempt one towards suicide (and I believe the eternal benefits are far greater), but the soul also learns and grows if one gives in to these temptations. Plus, as I said in the video, there’s also a varying degree of control over the act of taking one’s life (and therefore a varying degree of free will) when under the influence of mental illness, addictions or even constant chronic pain or suffering.
In a similar way, all those who share a lifetime with a loved one who has this potential (to take their own life) also come in with the potential that they will lose a loved one to suicide. In other words, their soul understands that grieving the loss of a loved one who took his own life is a possibility (and an experience they will learn and grow from if that happens), so they share a life with a person who has the potential to take their own life. However, if that person overcomes their challenges and suicidal tendencies and chooses to not take their life, then all those around him learn and grow from his free-will choice to not do that, as well. Either way, everyone’s soul has an experience from which they can learn and grow.
I hope I’ve written this so that it’s easy to understand. Thanks for writing (and all the way from Vietnam). I’m sorry for the loss of your pastor. There sure were a lot of people who were affected and confused by his suicide. The best we can hope is that they do what you have done and used his passing as a catalyst for spiritual growth.
Warmest wishes to you,
Bob
Dear Bob,
Today one of my son’s closest friends was buried after hanging himself. The boy was only 19 years old.My son and his friends are so devasted among many others. The strange thing about this is that i was told during a psychic reading that I would be receiving sad news relating to my son that would make us feel bad. She mentioned someone being sick but I think she did not want to worry me and mention death b/c she doesnt like to focus on the negative. Of course my son thought I crazy and brushed me off. Then after receiving the news of the suicide, I realized this was what the psychic was talking about. I am taking this news so bad b/c i wish i could have stopped this from happening if I could have figured it out beforehand. I wish i could have had helped him and made him realize he was not alone. No one can understand why this happened b/c he was just getting his life together by stopping drugs and getting a job.
Anyhow, I have been searching all day online to find something that would comfirm that this boy is in a good place. Thank you for your video. It is helping me realize that I could not have stopped him. And I have some religh he is in a good place. I hope!
Hi Marle,
I’m sorry for your loss. But you could not have stopped it. That’s not what psychic readings are about. You should watch my video on Predictions. Allow yourself to grieve without the burden of that thought on your shoulders. I’m glad this video gave you some peace.
Warmly,
Bob
Bob,
Can’t say enough good things about your shows, many thanks. Started watching with Natalie Sudman, and really hope you can do more shows like the don Miguel Ruiz interview…wow!
On your suicide report, I may have two exceptions to your findings. First we probably have millions of lives as human beings after coming thru millions of lives as less concious beings, i.e. stone conciousness can be considered our first truly physical incarnation, developes patience…. chuckle. Second some suicides decide they need to vicariously experience things they missed when shortening life, and hang around for situations to develope in the physical or even subtle worlds, so they can empathcize, which is only partially instructive. This delay leads to a longer than necessary period before reincarnating; thus, delaying experience of situations first-hand for getting on with freeing the Soul.
Thank you Lawrence,
I appreciate your views. And I apologize it’s taken me so long to respond. Best wishes to you.
Warmly,
Bob
Somewhat contradicting. No judgement but the spirit feels shame? Doesn’t the feeling of shame come from some sort of judgement?
Hi Zack,
You ask a really good question, because one could certainly mistaken shame for judgement. However, when a person in spirit looks back at their life during what’s called the Life Review process, that person is the only one making any judgements on his life choices and actions. The spirits who are supporting that person during the Life Review are only there to help him learn and grow from his choices/actions during that lifetime. That person then learns to forgive himself for anything of which he’s not proud or, worse, feels shame around. Once that person works through it, the shame is gone and it’s now an experience from which that person in spirit learns and grows. In this way, the shame felt is merely one stage of the total human experience.
The second level to your question has to do with the relationship between the spirit and the soul. The spirit to the soul is like a wave to the ocean. The spirit of a hypothetical person, say Joe, is just one aspect of the soul (Joe’s higher self). To the soul connected to Joe, a choice and action of Joe’s here on the physical plane is just another experience. Joe’s soul holds no judgement or even opinion of Joe’s choices and actions. They simply are. So the only reason that Joe’s spirit might feel shame around an experience at all is because of his connection to his human life, not his soul.
To take this one step further, the personality of Joe (the spirit of Joe) only exists as the part of the soul that experienced a human life as Joe. Joe’s soul is not named Joe, because Joe’s soul has had many lives–one as Joe, one as Sally, one as George, etc. Going back to the wave analogy, if the wave had a name (let’s say Wavvie), the ocean would not be Wavvie too. Wavvie would only exist during her limited experience as a wave. Once Wavvie hit the shore and her wave experience was over, she would be part of the ocean’s many wave experiences. So Joe’s shame about something he did during his human life only exists because he’s the spirit of a human. It’s the humanness of Joe’s spirit that feels the shame, not the soul from which he’s connected. But since the spirit of Joe never ceases to exist, that part of his soul continues to learn and grow from the spiritual realm by looking back at his life and by seeing how his choices/actions affected his loved ones both during and after his life as Joe.
This is a more advanced course on the afterlife. But I hope it’s helpful.
Warmly,
Bob
Thank you for this video. I came across this video because I have been suicidal for the past 3 years. I have chronic and severe pain. Unrelenting and vicious pain. I instinctively realized some of what you said already. I have always been a deep and spiritual person. I knew that I would not go to hell or be punished as if it were a crime but I also knew that there would have to be spiritual impact. What that impact might be is what led me here. Also in a strange way I didn’t want to let my spiritual guides down, as if I have made this very hard life and to cut out early would be like entering the afterlife with my tail between my legs and head down. With deep consideration of your words, I tried to connect to my guides and felt peace all over and happiness. It made me stronger to realize I can leave now and stop my suffering if I choose, to hang in there is my choice but I felt supported either way. It’s not a Disney movie, in 5 years or 20 years I may not be able to take it anymore, the physical pain I mean, but I think that my condition is so severe that I literally get credit for every day I make it.
Hi Valerie,
I have sincere compassion for your situation. Thank you for sharing your experience. What an amazing and inspiring response you had to this video. Your meditation is in direct alignment with everything I’ve learned and would expect. And I agree with you that if we weren’t gaining in some way on a soul level, we wouldn’t still be here. While we, as humans, might never know why our souls chose the lives we are experiencing, we will certainly know one day and benefit from our courage to remain. You must be an incredibly courageous soul to have signed up for the life you now know. In fact, I think you’re a courageous and inspiring human being.
Warmly,
Bob
PS, I encourage you to write your story to inspire others and pass down what you have learned from your life.
Bob, my son committed suicide 3 weeks ago. I’m trying to find answers why, but I’m sure I will never know why. I found your page and what you had said gave me hope that one day I will see my son again in the spiritual world. I just have a quick question. For many many years I had a vision that I would find one of my sons hung. Many times when going into their bedrooms that image would come to my head. It happened, I found my son hung. Could you explain this? What is a premonition or something like that happened in one of my previous lives according to you. Please respond.
Hi Jackie,
I’m very sorry to learn about your tragic loss, and so recently. To answer your question, the best anyone can do is guess, but my guess would be that you are working out some past-life karma. What this means is that you might have experienced something in a past life related to suicide, possibly by hanging. Perhaps you took your own life this way and now you’re learning compassion for those you left behind. Or perhaps you lost a son in a past life and reacted in a way that your soul preferred you didn’t, so this life you’re having the opportunity to respond differently. If this is the case, the hanging you saw in your vision might have been the one from that past life. It’s not always possible for us to differentiate the concept of “son” from one life to another–our brains often take the scene from the past life and put people from this life into it. So interpreting your vision could go in several directions.
It’s also possible that you have some psychic ability. But even if this were the case, it wouldn’t mean that you had any ability to prevent it. In fact, my experience with this from a spiritual perspective is that loved ones have no ability to prevent suicides even with a premonition. The free will choice was your son’s to make. He was exercising the ability that God gave him to take his own life. Now, given that result, the best that you can do is use your free will to choose how you will respond to this tragedy. You can choose to let it destroy you or choose to let it teach you how valuable and precious life is. I’ve seen parents who lose children in this way do both. But what I would guess that your soul wants, especially if you are repeating this from a past life, is to respond to this tragedy in a way that is most loving to you and your family.
I know a common occurrence when parents lose their children is focus on the child who passed and lose focus on the child (or children) who are still alive. Hypothetically, that might have been what you did in the past life. Just the fact that you have been drawn to this video and are emailing me indicates to me that your response this time around will be a healthier, more loving experience for everyone. You might want to watch more Afterlife TV videos, and I recommend you read two books by Robert Schwartz, 1) Your Soul’s Plan, and 2) Your Soul’s Gift. They both talk about suicide in a way that I believe will be helpful to you. And, finally, once you’ve had proper time to grieve your son’s passing, you might consider a past-life regression. I recommend a woman named Nancy Canning from Cape Code (she can do it via Skype). But there are many qualified people around the country, as well.
I hope this is helpful Jackie. Again, I’m really sorry for your loss.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob,
Thank you for your video. It answered a lot of questions I have had on life after suicide. A lot of it made sense. Coincidentally, I was discussing this very topic tonight with a friend of mine and watched your video after. It would make me too sad to think that suicides would be punished in the after life as they have suffered so much already in life. I am going thru my own personal journey due to illness. I have struggled with it since a young age. I feel I have lost everything- my dreams, joy, goals, my love. I was born into this world to run free, a happy free spirit at one point. I lost that from illness.
Anyway, I will check out the rest of your vids and page. Thank you.
Sincerely,
S
Hi Sussanna,
You are welcome. I’m glad this video had a positive effect on you, and I hope the other videos do as well. I think that if you continue watching them, you will find your awareness expanding, which could positively affect your life. I wish you the best that life can offer. Many times, the best is just around the corner.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob,
Since watching this video, I have explored your site(s) and watch several videos. Interviews with Anita Moorjani, Robert Schwartz, Rita Berkowitz, Dr. Eben Alexander, Dr. Brian Weiss (Many Lives, Many Masters/Only Love is Real- I have read years ago) It’s funny- I was certified as a hypnotherapist and in past life regression over 10 years ago. I never pursued it extensively as a career path. However, I have conducted several past life sessions to friends and a couple of clients and that was always my area of interest. Now I am interested in these subjects again after finding your site. I have also bought Anita Moorjani’s & Michael Newton’s books. I am very interested in LBL and would love to have a session- and then learning the techniques.
I am finding my awareness expanding. I am in a v rough period in my life with my illness and I wanted to feel okay about the afterlife. My morale has been low. Since discovering your site and information from others, I am beginning to realize what my soul’s purpose might be. I do feel a sense of defeat because these physical challenges my soul has chosen for whatever reason are v hard for me. I don’t want to ‘fail’ and have to come back and redo these hardships again. Anyway, i am more spiritual than I have ever been. Thank you.
Yours sincerely,
S
Hi Sussanna,
You’re so welcome. Sounds like you’ve reached a new level of your spiritual awareness and are on the road to even greater awakenings. I’ve seen no evidence that we can fail, so I wouldn’t worry about that. Just by showing up here on the physical plane, you will be admired by your guides and soul family.
My advice to you–although I’m not saying this will be easy–is to be present with the physical challenges you are facing and ask them what message they have for you. Begin by recognizing the pain or discomfort that is already in your body. Then relax (in trance) and go to that place in your mind. Connect with it and communicate with it. Ask it why it’s there, why it is in this location (what significance or meaning that part of the body has), and what message the physical challenge has for you. If you can’t do this on your own, you might consider having a hypnotherapist assist you. Perhaps that is why you were drawn to hypnotherapy in the first place, not to adopt it as your own calling but to use it yourself. I certainly don’t know, but consider it.
By no coincidence, this week I’m posting a new interview with Nancy Canning, a past-life and life-between-lives regressionist. I think you’ll enjoy the episode, but you also might want to contact Nancy. She works via Skype or phone, as well as in person. All are equally effective. Nancy is the hypnotherapist and regressionist I use personally. You can read about my first experience with Nancy at http://www.bestpsychicmediums.com/Nancy-Article.htm or wait for the new interview.
My very best wishes to you,
Bob
Hi bob , i v lost my only son in a motorbike accident about a month ago, all i want is to be with my boy ,can you help me how to cope as i m in a misery every day i cry fir hours don t know what to do ,he was my best mate i did tell him to not to buy a bike and also 2 knites before the accident he couldn t undo’a bolt on the brake parts so i suggested to take as it was an int but he just ignore ne and kept going 2 day s later he die i m devasteted maybe i should have insist for him nit to go but been 22 years old it is very hard to be heard , also he wanted me to go that morning at the trak with him but i din t go becouse i din t want to encourage him , and tought he msy go faster just to show me he was good in he s life he was a pilot at 18 for an australian airline tought would have been enough adrenaline but he pushed more and more i v always belived in god and prayed daily but now i v lost all the fate ,and all i want is to be with my son as soon as possible i was on medication for high colesterole but i v stopped taking it so if may faster up my departure from this horrible phisical life and go to the spiritual life , hope you can help me ,i v been watching many videos of you and you se to be a very nice geniunean please help me if you can. Regards fabio
Hi Fabio,
First, I’m so very sorry to learn about your son’s passing. I can’t even imagine the pain you feel. But I can assure you that you had no control over preventing your son’s passing. We call them accidents because they appear random and senseless to us, but to our souls they are planned events. I have no doubt that your son’s soul pre-planned his early death for reasons that we might not be able to understand. It’s really not for us to understand. But I say this so that you know that there was no way you could have prevented it. At worst, you might have actually seen the accident and would have to hold that in your memory forever.
In the same way, Fabio, your soul pre-planned your life knowing that you would have a son who died young. This means that your soul knew your son’s soul before either of you were ever born. And together you planned this life you shared. And there was a purpose your soul had in wanting to live through this tragic experience. We don’t always know why our souls plan these things, but we can trust that there is some purpose.
When souls like your son’s choose to leave this human life early, it’s quite common that they make an effort to live their short life adventurously. And it sure sounds like your son lived his life adventurously. Riding motorbikes and flying planes falls right in line with this type of soul’s plan. We often say of these people “he’s living fast,” because that’s what they are really doing. He lived fast because his soul knew he wouldn’t be here for long.
The secret about life is that it’s not what happens to us that is important as much as how we respond to what happens to us. If you can watch the videos on Afterlife TV, such as my interviews with Robert Schwartz (there are two), you will get a better sense of why our souls plan our lives with tragedy in them. If you can wrap your mind around the idea that there is a purpose to your son’s passing–a purpose for you and a purpose for him–then you will recognize that your soul does not want you to die early in order to chase after him. Instead, this is an opportunity for you to turn your son’s passing into something positive.
How do you turn one’s death into something positive? Well, there are numerous possibilities. Just learning about the afterlife and spirituality might be something that you would not have done before. If so, then that might be a positive consequence. Or once you have gotten beyond the worst of your grief, you may be able to help other parents who have recently lost children with their grief. Or you might find a way to teach safety to teenagers by telling your son’s story. Or you might start a foundation that raises money to buy safer helmets for young motorbike riders. Or you might start a support group for parents who have lost children to motorbike accidents or any adrenaline-chasing activities. All of these examples would give meaning to your son’s passing; because if he did not pass, you would not be doing these things.
The point is that your soul planned this life for you in such a way that you could turn a tragic accident into something positive, not accelerate your own death in an effort to chase after your son in spirit. So I hope that is the choice you will make. Just remember, Fabio, the world is a better place with you it. I hope you can own that truth.
This message and all the videos I’ve created on Afterlife TV are the only ways I know how to help you. I created my work in this way in reaction to my father’s passing in 1997. So his passing turned into this purpose for me. While I know that it isn’t a lot, I hope that it helps you in some way. Be gentle with yourself in your time of grief.
Warmly,
Bob
This is one of the areas where we cant se straight at all because of fear from old dogma and religion. About one million commit suicide every year. A lot more attempts are made. Is this a mistake? Something that happens so often and still the source or God does not understand? Ofcourse not. God understands everything and suicide is part of the plan, is something that is suppose to happen, or it wouldn´t happen. Is suicide worse than murder? Is suicide worse than abuse or treating someone badly or bullying? Isn´t it slow suicide to smoke, take drugs or eat bad food? Who can say in the long run what is good or bad for humanity? We only look to one life and judge. If 10000 japanese workers kill themselves because of working to much, is that bad or perhaps good? What if that is what it takes for the japanese government or companies to make life better for japanese workers. What do we know? If we live 10000 lives, arn´t we all going to kill ourselves at least once? Or murder someone? And so on. The life review is not worse for a person going who committed suicide than for anyone else. Why? Because suicide is just a happening like anything else. (and what do we really know about life reviews? some NDE:ers say we dont even have to watch if we don´t want) The source, God or the elders are not disappointed if someone kill themselves of course, why would they be? This is one of the most common ways of dying. According to wikipedia the 10th leading cause of death. This is part of life.
Hi Staffan,
I think you got it. The purpose of having a physical life is experience, to experience things that our souls have not experienced before.
Warmly,
Bob
I’ve heard some say that those who commit suicide are at some point forced to reincarnate. Have you come across any evidence to support this view?
Hi Andrew,
In a word, no. People love to spread that myth however.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob,
An interesting video. I have read quite a bit about the spirit world and can relate to your way of describing it. I have a question , my daughter was murdered by her ex boyfriend who subsequently completed suicide. I am having trouble with the concept of karma and life plans in relation to her death. I don’t ‘get’ how his impulsive decision is karma for her. I’d love to hear your take on this and also on what their journey may now include in the after life. I guess I’m coming looking at this from the point of view of a protective mother who wants to know that my daughter is ‘safe’ where she is, and not ‘dealing’ with him.
Kind regards
Lorraine
Hi Lorraine,
First, I’m really sorry for your loss. Regarding your concern, however, karma is a most misunderstood concept. What’s more important to understand is that our souls have a physical life in order to have experiences, which teach the soul about things that are impossible to know in the spirit world. And to know a particular physical experience, death for example, a soul might have one physical life that provides the experience of natural death, another that provides the experience of being murdered, another that provides the experience of being responsible for one’s death, and so it goes from there. The possibilities are truly endless.
A soul, of course, never really knows exactly how any one human life is going to play out since free will is always in the driver’s seat. But we come into each life with the potential for such experiences, and our spirit guides help to guide us toward the experiences we hoped to experience during our human lifetime. In terms of karma, many people might surmise that your daughter perhaps murdered someone else in a past-life, so she was balancing that with this life where she was murdered. But, to me, it’s really just about her soul having experiences from every possible angle. She (her soul) now knows the experience of being murdered, which is something that her soul might not yet have experienced, at least not under these circumstances.
As I wrote above, these are experiences that are not possible on the spiritual realm, which means that your daughter is perfectly safe in the light and love of the spirit world. The spirit of the man who took her life is not evil; it was only his human self whose actions were evil. My investigations of the afterlife lead me to believe that your daughter is joyful, safe and filled with love where she’s at now. I don’t even believe that she holds any negative feelings toward her ex-boyfriend, as our loved ones in spirit forgive easily because it’s what best for them too. And if you can someday recognize the truth in this, you might even be able to release your own pain by forgiving him as well. But this is one of the most challenging journeys any soul can sign up for, as losing a child is terribly difficult, but losing a child to murder is on another level altogether. So trust me that I don’t expect any parent in your situation to ever forgive the murderer, and you certainly won’t be judged for not forgiving. Still, I simply hope for your own inner peace that you are able to get there one day, because the burden that you carry must be enormous. Bless you.
My warmest wishes to you Lorraine,
Bob
Hi Bob,
I can’t thank you enough in regards to your research. Your video on suicide answered a lot of my questions.
What gave me a lot of peace of mind is that I’ve had a psychic ability my whole life and everything that you spoke about in regards to God being nonjudgemental, Elders, Spirit Guides, and so on coincides with what God has taught me. God has appeared to me many times throughout my life. In 1997, I felt like I was a failure and that I was not successful in life. I graduated from college to be a teacher, but when I got into teaching, I hated it and I drive a forklift for a living. To make a long story short, I sunk into a very deep depression and used alcohol to ease my pain. Well, it didn’t help, all it did was make my problens worse. Just before my twin daughters were born God appeared to me and said that being a loving, kind, and compassionate person is how he views a successful person, that my job has absolutely nothing to do with being successful. Because of this experience, it gave me the strength to stop drinking and I will never drink again. I can go on and on in regards to the numerous comments that you made that coincides in regards to what I have spoken to God about. For this reason, I know that everything that you discussed in regards to suicide is accurate.
The reason I watched your video, is that many years ago I read just about every book that Dr. Raymond Moody has written. In his book, Reflections on Life After Life, he makes God sound like he’s a God who’s extremely judgemental in regards to those who commit suicide. What Dr. Moody wrote is the complete opposite of what God has taught me. I have nothing but the highest respect for Dr. Moody and his research, but I believe his case studies in regards to suicide near-death experiences are inaccurate.
When Kurt Cobain of Nirvana died, it was very devatating for me. He was struggling with Bipolar Disorder, and from what I understand from articles I’ve read that he used illegal drugs, and he had a very difficult childhood. Someone like Kurt, how could God be judgemental? I have nothing but compassion for Kurt. It’s unfortunate that he committed suicide, but look at all the struggles he endured. When you explained how loving God is, even to those who commit suicide, it greatly reduced a lot of my frustration towards God. Doing the research that you do, has any psychic or medium spoken to you in regards to Kurt? I’ve been able to speak to many people who have gone Home to heaven, but I have never been able to contact Kurt.
I can’t thank you enough for the research that you do, you have greatly eased my anxiety in regards to those who commit suicide, Dan.
Hi Dan,
I appreciate your comments, and I’m glad that my findings resonate with you. So many of us grew up with religions that our parents chose for us that taught us about a god that we should fear. I’ve found no evidence of such a god. I have only seen evidence of a god that loves us unconditionally. As to your comment about success being about love, compassion and kindness, I fully agree.
I do not recall any mediums who have made contact with Kurt, but that doesn’t surprise me. Normally, in order to make contact with someone in spirit, a medium would have to be giving a reading to a family member or friend of that deceased person. Otherwise there’s really no reason for that spirit to come through. I personally have no doubts that Kurt is fine.
My best wishes to you,
Bob
Thanks for your reply Bob, I appreciate your time. I was in the audience of Lisa Williams a few months ago and my daughter came through. I can confirm that she has forgiven the boy who killed her and asked me to pass on to his family that he was OK – something that I have not yet been able to do. I hope that as I journey further down this path I will get some peace with all of this. 🙂
Hi Bob,
I found your website by way of a Google search. Sure glad I found it. I have somehow sensed that reincarnation is real, although I have no memory of any past lives. In doing research on the subject I came across Michael Newton of the Newton Institute. He is a hypnotherapist who started out as an atheist, but after a few years of practice stumbled onto a past life with a client he had under hypnosis.
From that point on he has been very keen to the idea and has done his own research and now after 7,000 cases of past life regressions to previous lives and in-between lives, he says that in all of those cases, NOT EVEN 1 PERSON HAS EVER EXPERIENCED HELL. Then Dr. Ian Stevenson, another pioneer in past life regressions over his long and distinguished career, has said the same thing… no evidence of hell from any of his clients either. I have heard you say the same thing.
So with all of that said, what in the world do we do with the accounts from other people who supposedly experienced hell? Any Google search of hell will turn up people who have had visions of hell or even trips to hell and back. And of course Jesus talked about hell. It is important to note that God did not create hell for people but for satan and his fallen angels.
My question is… What do we do with this? Is hell real or not? Or maybe a better question would be — is hell real for some people?
Your thoughts Bob… or anyone else??
Hi Steven,
Yes, I know the work of these men. And, yes, I too have seen no evidence of hell. This is a very difficult question you have asked, and I can’t properly answer it in a comment reply. But what I can say is that religious teachings and evidence are two very different things to me. I don’t mix the two. I prefer to go on my own personal experience and investigations. But I investigate the afterlife for me, not for anyone else. In other words, I’m not one of those people who wants you to believe what I believe. Instead, I encourage everyone to become their own afterlife investigator and the draw their own conclusions. If I share my own experiences or conclusions publicly, it is only to encourage your own investigation–not to convince you to believe what I believe.
As for people who have had NDEs and claimed to have experienced hell, I believe that we experience what we expect to experience in the initial stages of life after death. So I fully believe that those who believed that they were going to hell had that experience during their near-death experience. However, some say that their initial hell experience changed once they figured out that they were creating their own experience–so they changed what they focused upon and their experience changed (they were no longer experiencing hell). Others were not in the spirit world long enough to figure this out, so the hell experience was all that they experienced.
My research goes beyond near-death experiences. So, through mediums, I’ve communicated with people who died and stayed dead (unlike NDEs who died briefly and came back), meaning they are now people in spirit (in the spirit world). I knew the mediums were in contact with these people because they conveyed messages from these spirits that the mediums could not possibly know. And not one of these people in spirit has indicated in my presence that hell exists. And I’ve been working with mediums since 1999, and have seen thousands of other people get readings as well.
So I can only tell you what I’ve experienced in my own investigation of the afterlife. If I ever gain any evidence that hell exists, you can be sure that I’ll announce it publicly. But when you take people like myself, Newton, and Stevenson, with many years of accumulated investigation between us, and hold that up to a few people who have only had their own single experiences, I would be more cautious about what those people with the single experiences are saying. Perhaps you can ask them the opposite question you asked me.
If you listen to my interview with Nanci Danison, she explains how she experienced what she thought about during her near-death experience. She found that she was able to change her experience instantly simply by thinking a new thought. And there are other people who have had NDEs that claim the same.
I hope this is somewhat helpful to you, Steven. The point is that I can’t give you the answer; you must determine this for yourself. And the more investigation you do, the easier it is to look at ALL the evidence before you and draw your conclusions. I wish you well in your journey, and I thank you for your question.
Warmly,
Bob
My son hung himself 12 years ago and I have worried about what happened to him since that day. Thank you for explaining what happens after suicide. I keep looking for signs that he hears me talking to him but I’m not seeing anything. I just didn’t want anything horrible to happen to him. I hope he found peace. Thank you again.
Hi Kim,
I’m very sorry to learn about your son’s passing. I recommend the book, Hello From Heaven by Bill & Judy Guggenheim. It helps you to recognize all the signs our loved ones send us from the other side. I’m sure he is there. I also did an interview with Bill, so you might want to watch that. You’ll see it at: http://www.afterlifetv.com/?p=954
Warmly,
Bob
I had a vision of my sister’s spirit going into the light the day after she was murdered. I wasn’t dreaming-I was wide awake on a bright spring morning and suddenly I looked up ijn the sky and saw her dancing on the clouds. I was struck but the “three dimensionality” of the vision-she seemed formed out of the light. I have an astigmatism where i look out of one eye at a time so three dimensions was a big deal to me since i don’t see in three dimensions! She looked down at me and smiled as if to say “Figures you can see me!” as our eyes met. Then she stepped through a glowing doorway in the sky and was gone. I found myself back in the so-called real world looking up at a blue sky! I always thought it was the fate of suicide for the spirit to stay in this world as an invisible spirit watching the rest of their lives go on without being able to interact with their loved ones-just stuck in a cloudy grey world watching and wishing they could be a part of the future unfolding before them-seeing the empty space where they could have been. They would then have to wait in this “nether in-between-dimension” until the time they were supposed to die to go into the light. It’s just a thought-I’m not saying it’s true.
Hi James,
Thanks for sharing your cool story. That must have been amazing for you. I have two other videos I think you’ll want to watch. In regards to your experience with your sister, I think you’ll enjoy this interview because she had a similar experience to yours: http://www.afterlifetv.com/?p=1212 In regards to your belief mentioned at the end of your comment, I think you’ll find this video interesting: http://www.afterlifetv.com/?p=704 I appreciate your comment and I hope you have more experiences with your sister in the future.
Warmly,
Bob
I too believe in an afterlife, but always found the idea of burning in hell for suicide as odd. After all, most people that do think of or commit suicide are going through enough pain here, so why would it make sense to inflict more pain? I hope anyone who made this choice is happier in another world. I myself have a lot of problems with depression and have thought of suicide since I was a child. I guess because of that I find it easy to have sympathy for people that feel similar. A lot of people say anyone who thinks of it as “stupid” or “weak” or they just say “life sucks for everyone, just deal with it”. I personally see that as social darwinism and not kind or right at all. Some people just can’t handle it. Especially if you’re alone, humiliated and rejected by everyone. I really hope all those people find whatever they didn’t have here….
Thanks Levat,
Nicely written.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
Hi Bob, you said previously it is your understanding that it is a myth that people who commit suicide
are forced to reincarnate. Do you beleive we have a choice to reincarnate? If
yes is it the spirits choice or the souls? Also you said a spirit is
like a wave, do our family who have passed away always stay with our
spirit in the after life. Even if the soul starts a new life? Sorry if
I am miss understanding.
I also just wanted to say how much your page has helped me…[removed for commenter’s privacy].
I have really taken notice of how you spoke of how much the spirit
world try to help us and I am trying really hard to change and embrace
life again. I guess I am constantly waiting for the next bad thing to
happen. But you have given me an understanding that of course bad
things will still happen, but I will hopefully cope.
Thank you again for your wonderful site and I hope I haven’t waffled on
too much.
Julie xx
P.s I also received a shock 3 days after my grandmother passing away, a
purse I had never used previously, when I opened it in one of my nans
favourite cafe’s was full of hair. I have been told it was my nan
telling me not to grow old before my time.
Hi Julie,
First, thank you for sharing your story with me. What I gathered from it is that you are a much stronger and more resilient person than perhaps you even know. I sincerely wish you and your father the very best.
Second, to answer your questions: Yes, we are not forced to reincarnate if we take our life but we have a choice to reincarnate, and it is our souls that get to make that choice. And, regarding your next question, all of our loved ones remain in the afterlife together. As I mentioned in other comment replies, our spirits return to our souls and live there eternally. So the answer is yes, even if the soul chooses to reincarnate (to create a new spirit that will experience a new lifetime), the spirit remains in the afterlife as part of the whole (the soul). We do not lose our personality, which is why your Nana was able to communicate to you via the medium. We are both the personality we knew as a physical being and the larger self known as a soul.
I don’t want you or anyone else reading this to mistakenly think that the spirit and soul are ever separate, as they are not. They feel to us as separate–as humans–but even now we are connected to our souls. And when we leave our bodies and return to the afterlife, we don’t technically reunite with our souls; it is more that we recognize our connection to our higher self.
This is one of those subjects that might require a book or a workshop in order to help people fully understand. But I hope this gives you a greater awareness of this. Your question seems to be more concerned with being with family in the afterlife, and the answer is that we need only think of the person we wish to be with in the afterlife and we are with them. That’s the simple answer. Of course, there’s a complicated answer to this too (as to how that works), but I prefer the simpler, bigger picture over the complicated.
The fact that you have lived through what you’ve lived through and you’re still here tells me, Julie, that you have a strength beyond most human beings. You came into this life with a potential that leads you to “think” about doing something that you have not done thus far, and I don’t think you ever will. Absorb that truth, feel good about yourself for it, and rely upon this strength being there regardless of what comes your way in the future. You can handle it. So don’t fear the future; embrace it. Because if you expect good things to happen to you, they will. That’s a secret I’ve learned that sounds so simple that many people don’t believe it. Yet for those who do, they live it. My blessings to you.
Warmly,
Bob
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Hi Bob, Thank you for your lovely reply and your help with my understanding of the questions I raised, I have been told in the past that I am very spiritual (although I have not believed this), your website and video’s are helping me to explore that side of myself and make sense of a lot of aspects of my life. I feel so much stronger and am daring to believe in the future, especially as my father is going from strength to strength …………. with a very big helping hand from my nan.
Many thanks again for taking the time to reply.
Julie
I never was sure what to believe. My mother was depressed a lot, and talked about killing herself but never acted on it. On halloween 5 years ago, she died from taking to many perscription medicine. Its unknown if her death was intentional or accidental. She often took a lot of medicine to sleep, but this time was to much. I often wondered if I should talk to a medium to get answers.
Hi MSB,
I’m very sorry to learn about your mother’s passing. If I were in your shoes, I would ask myself if it matters to know if your mother’s passing was intentional or accidental. Considering the outcome is still the same either way, some people believe that it’s better not to know. So think about how it might affect your life either way, and choose what’s best for you.
If you decide to consult a medium, I wouldn’t rely upon just one medium reading. For something this important, if I were to consult a medium for this matter, I would consult three; because mediums can misinterpret messages from spirit. This is one of those situations where it would be quite unfortunate if you got the wrong information.
My best wishes to you,
Bob
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I am very grateful to have found your site. My brother shot himself […] this week and I feel like I lost a piece of my heart. Your comments about the fact that all the good things he did in this life time and previous lifetimes are not erased by this act really comforted me. I hope and pray he is at peace finally, he deserved peace I don’t want him to have to spend one more second in mental anguish over me or anyone else, I loved him too much, his family loved him too much and I always knew that God wouldn’t let that happen. Thanks again.
Hi Jackie,
My deepest sympathies go to you and your family. I’m glad you found my website and this video, and that it has benefit you in this way. I recommend that you do what comes natural following a passing of any sort, which is to share with one another the joyful memories you have of your brother. Do not feel shame around how he passed. It is his story and others will learn from it. And feel free to talk right out loud to him, as he can hear everything you tell him. He is with you all.
Warmly,
Bob
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This gave me great relief ..thank you
Hi Mark,
Glad to hear it. Thanks for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
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I have had suicidal ideation for over 25 years. I cannot wait to be done with this life. I have had a hard abusive life. This life has torn me apart and left me in pieces. I feel like my spirit died years ago. I don’t think there is anything wrong with people that decide to suicide. I never judge another persons reasons for committing suicide. Not everyone learns there lessons. Not everyone makes it in life. Life runs the gammit. I think when you die you have all this awareness you didn’t get while you were here. So, the big picture comes into focus a lot easier. I can’t see that anyone would go to hell for not living there life out. I just think next time around it won’t be so difficult.
Hi Carl,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. I hope life improves for you. There are many wonderful reasons for living, and I hope you discover as many as possible.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
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Hi Bob,
Thank you so much for your video.
I lost my husband due to suicide Dec 2.
My husband also had a brother that had committed suicide & he knew the pain it caused the family.
I have forgiven him, I know in my heart he didn’t do it to hurt me & our kids.
He had esophageal cancer surgery with some complications, even though physically he was healing emotionally he was in a bad way.
He tried for sometime to get help & only could see darkness.
It gives me comfort to know my husband is ok.
I miss him dearly every day !!
Thanks so much for giving me some peace of mind.
Hi Brenda,
I’m so sorry to learn of your husband’s passing. I’ve heard of surgeries leading to depression, especially if there is predisposition. Yes, your husband is fine (based on my experiences and investigation), and he’s fully aware of what you and your children are going through. I’m glad this video brought you some peace.
Check out more videos on AfterlifeTV.com. Many people who are dealing with loss have told me these videos bring them comfort. There’s one interview where my guest discusses the signs and signals our loved ones send us from the other side: http://www.afterlifetv.com/?p=954 And in this interview my guest discusses why our loved ones in spirit want to communicate with us: http://www.afterlifetv.com/?p=1067 I also have a book coming out in a couple months that deals with the question of suicide (in one section of the book). If you sign up for my newsletter, you’ll be one of the first to know when it’s available.
Thanks Brenda for taking the time to share your story and write your comment. My best wishes for your and your children.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
Hi Bob~
Thank you for this video. My ex husband and father of 2 of my children (ages 11 & 14) took his life a little over a year ago. We feel as though, when we were in our deepest pain, he was with us. Many electrical “signs”. Also, one of the biggest signs was my ipod started playing on its own one morning when I was alone. The song that it played made me literally freeze. It’s a song by Linkin Park called “Waiting for the End.” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxyZWya62Ig
Sometime, when you have time, you should listen to the lyrics. I never payed attention to the song until it played that morning. When I DID finally LISTEN to the lyrics, I KNEW without a doubt, it was him.
I struggle with how to explain his choice to end his life to my kids. They feel so abandoned. Videos like these help me so much. Everything you said is what I believed before “knowing” you. Your video gives me the confidence to know that what I’m telling them is the truth.
Fondly,
Julie
Hi Julie,
I’m so sorry to learn about your ex-husband’s passing. It sure sounds to me like he played that song for you. I’m glad this video on suicide was helpful to you. Be sure to watch more videos on http://www.AfterlifeTV.com as many people dealing with loss have told me they have helped.
I wish you and your children well. Thanks for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
Hi Bob.
I had to read your post a few times. Certainly not because you did not express yourself well but because of the “Impact” of your words and thoughts. As a long standing law enforcement officer I have gone to some suicides obviously. It’s a somber feeling standing in a room looking into a person’s eyes and thinking –Why!?
Although some leave notes, most actually don’t. And the notes that are left mostly say “Sorry” and nothing else.
Unfortunately the last suicide I went to was a police officer who was facing criminal complaints. He was suspended and found to be in possession of a weapon, namely his off duty weapon. Now I truly believe that he did not deserve the horrific charge he got, because He was a great guy and did a lot of good things in his career. But the truth being told, still he committed a crime BUT not in the course of a crime. Meaning he did have a weapon -but –was not “using” that weapon to commit a crime. Also. Over 300 police officers commit suicide a year. Sad but painfully true. They, like Military personnel, see too much pain and cannot deflect that pain.
So if 300 police officers nationwide take their lives –was that predestined? There is an awesome quote I once heard.
“We often listen to respond– but rarely to understand”
So thank you for helping me understand Suicide. We are often afraid of the unknown. And if we stop to think that the unknown is every second of the day and we have successfully been meeting that challenge every second. Maybe– just maybe. Outcomes may be different.
Tony
Thanks Tony,
So well written. You’re most welcome, of course. My best wishes to you.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
Thank you so much bob for this report video
my boyfriend and father to my 2 children committed sucide and ever since then it’s been tearing out my brain Whether he is being punished in a hell like place.
Your explanation was so perfect and has given me a big peace of mind
And for that I’m truely grateful.
Kind regards
Lisa
Hi Lisa,
I’m so sorry to learn about your boyfriend’s passing. I’m glad that you benefited from the video. I think you’d also benefit from my new book as I discuss suicide there and so much more, so check it out at (as of today, I haven’t publicly announced it because I’m waiting for the Kindle version to be available): http://www.amazon.com/dp/0965601986/?tag=altvcom-20
Thank you for taking the time to write your kind words.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
Bob, I just have to say that I love your videos. You have answered many questions that I have had over the years about death and the afterlife. My brother took his life 13 years ago due to depression and schizophrenia. I was never angry with him, just sad, of course, because we loved him very much. I always knew that his spirit was with God in the spirit world. My dad thought that he might have gone to hell due to his religious beliefs. I had a dream visitation from my brother and there was no doubt in my mind that he was in heaven and his spirit is at peace. You have answered my questions about the longing that I have always felt about missing another place that I now know is our home in heaven that we always return to when we leave this physical world. And I always was ambivalent about having children. I think that my spirit remembered this about my life plan and was maybe afraid to confront this. I realize now that it was because my son has ADHD, and we as a family have struggled with this. But I have learned many lessons from having him as my son and loving him unconditionally. I have struggled with depression for many years too because of a serious ear problem, but I know that I will just keep on keeping on and love this life.
God bless you, Bob. Thanks again.
Hi Brenda,
I’m happy to hear that this was helpful to you. Very sorry to hear about your brother’s passing. How nice for you though that he visited you in a dream.
You might be interested in my new book where I also talk about suicide: http://www.amazon.com/dp/0965601986/?tag=altvcom-20
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
I have to admit I have strong feelings about suicide. As a psychologist, I have found that most people don’t commit suicide until the pain of dying becomes less than the pain of living. Those who are young don’t yet have the experience to know how to get through the pain and hopelessness. But suicide increases later in life, and those people may have struggled and given it their all for decades before finally giving up in sheer hopelessness and futility. Nothing they do works. It’s like sinking in quicksand and the pain becomes so immense they release their natural hold on life and just slip under. How can we say that they have to pay for that in some way on the other side?
As far as suicide being the most selfish act, I believe that some people’s lives are immensely more selfish than some people’s death. For instance, those who traffic in human suffering would be committing an act of generosity by taking their own lives instead of others.
Also, what is the difference between a bullet in the brain and untreated diabetes, for example. Why is an obvious suicide more frowned upon than the back door to suicide, such as knowingly living a lifestyle that puts one at increased risk (or even certainty) of “premature” death?
Finally, who gets to say that one’s soul didn’t contract to live the hardships that would lead them ultimately to commit suicide, maybe to get the experience or to learn something they wanted to learn? If this were the case, why wouldn’t they be considered successful when they return to their soul place instead of assuming they have even more regrets and burdens to bear?
I hadn’t heard the hospital theory but I have to admit I prefer it because these people have suffered so incredibly much in their hearts and minds already. They really need that TLC and I like to think they’re now getting it.
Hi LoralLee,
I love what you’ve written here. Very well articulated. And I agree with it all. I think you would really resonate with my new book, Answers About The Afterlife (BobOlson.com), where I have taken this discussion of suicide to an even deeper level. I write much better than I talk, partly because I can edit to make sure every word says exactly what I mean. So I was able to discuss suicide and murder with the articulation that you write here.
Thanks LoralLee for writing. You must be a wonderful psychologist.
Warmly,
Bob
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great video and a great presentation, Bob
I’m found on several websites as ‘mac’ writing about the so-called afterlife, often (but not exclusively) from a Modern Spiritualist perspective. I’m a Brit but ‘speak’ to many US website members. A recent exchange on a website where I’m an infrequent contributor led to my trying to remember – fruitlessly! – where I’d found and recorded your interview with Mavis Pitilla. One thing led to another and the website owner eventually found your video (which I watched) after which I watched this one about suicide.
The issue of suicide, and its impact on the one who passes, along with her/his family and friends left behind, often crops up. Heated emotions and frustration are often heard, members often disagree and some fall out with one another.
I hope you won’t mind my posting links to your presentation in appropriate forums. It should give folk a bit more to think about.
mac
Hi Mac,
Well thank you for sharing. Sure, you’re more than welcome to spread my video around. I appreciate that. I also write about suicide in my new book, and with greater detail since I write better than I speak.
My best wishes to you.
Warmly,
Bob
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My brother was an Indigo child and committed suicide because it was too hard to adjust to society, he was 32 when he did and the way he did it was very peculiar, still left us a very deep sadness and guilt.
Hi Alina,
Very sorry for your loss. Suicide is a very difficult type of grief to endure. I wish the best for you and your family.
Warmly,
Bob
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Hi Bob ~
I do not mean to fawn, but I am a big fan. I have watched most of your videos and recently ordered your book 🙂 I, like you, am intrigued by the afterlife and all of its many facets.
I am wondering how you feel about rational suicide or euthanasia. If a person who is terminally ill or chronically unwell, suffering and incapacitated, takes his/her life, do you think there are fewer consequences/regrets once the person crosses over? Do you think spirit may even mercifully “assist” this person with his/her departure?
I would be interested in your thoughts, if you have time to share them, as euthanasia is becoming a bigger and bigger topic in this country and others.
With thanks for all you do,
Samantha
Hi Samantha,
That’s a great question. While I did not address this question directly in my book, I believe you’ll get the answer by reading it. Since I’m way behind in responding to questions here, you’ve probably read my book and got your answer by now. The section on suicide and murder is most likely to give you the answer you seek. If you need more clarity, please let me know.
Thanks for your support and kindness.
Warmly,
Bob
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My wife committed suicide because of mental depression one year ago. From that time I surfed web to find the answers. I suffered and cried a lot and really wanted to be with her. Life was not a easy thing ant that time. I found your videos via YouTube and watched lots of interviews from AFTERLIFE TV. I’d like to say that you really did very good and meaning things for people like me. Though I still miss my wife so much now, I believe I will see her again someday.
I don’t believe in hell due to some my personal ADCs experiences. My wife showed up in my friends’ dreams and told them that she was so sorry to do that. And in dreams she was younger and beautiful and smiled and said that she felt more peaceful now. One day after she passed away my radio turned on loud by itself.(so unbelievable) and I spoke out loud ” I know it’s you, don’t worry about me.” then the radio turned off right away. And at first I really heard that she called my name for about three time. I remembered one time I felt that she kissed me while i did a meditation.
All I want to say is “Thanks BOB”. Your video really helped me a lot in that dark days. So I like share my own story with you. Saying prayers and telling your deceased loved one your love and forgiveness can really help them on the other side.
Hi Xzavier,
I’m so very sorry to learn about your wife’s passing. Thank you for sharing your experiences and how my work in this field has helped you. Your story reminds me of why I do what I do and motivates me to do more of it. I thank you for that.
I talk a lot about suicide in my new book, Answers About The Afterlife. If you haven’t seen it, please check it out: http://www.amazon.com/dp/0965601986/?tag=altvcom-20
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
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Hi,
I watched your video. Thank you! I’ve always wondered what happens to people who take their life… I’ve known a few who have done this, and I’ve heard that they re-live their actions over and over.Which it sounds like that doesn’t happen. The last person who took their life was a close & special friend and it’s changed me forever! I think of him all the time! I pray he’s happy & safe and feeling the love he wasn’t feeling here on earth. I talk to him a lot, hoping he hears me knowing how much he’s missed! I also tell him that what he did was stupid! And that he had so many people who would have tried to help. Thanks for answering some of my questions…
Hi Rebecca,
You’re most welcome. Sorry to learn about your friend’s passing. Good for you for searching for the answers to help yourself. In the end, that’s all we can really do. Keep talking to your friend right out loud. He hears you for sure. If you haven’t seen my new book yet, I give more information about suicide than I was able to give in this video. http://www.amazon.com/dp/0965601986/?tag=altvcom-20
My warmest regards,
Bob
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Hi Bob, I recently lost my uncle in January 2014 to sucide and finding it so difficult to cope with. Some of family members have been to mediums and we have been blown away by some of the information they have provided. We have took comfort by being told he wanted us to know he’s in a beautiful place and that it’s more like hell on earth. To add to this tragic event, my brother in law committed sucide on the 3rd July he was only 23 and left behind his partner (my sister) and his one year old little boy. It was the most unexpected thing to hit us as a family, it was like he had everything to live for and there was no inclination that anything was wrong. I can’t describe the pain my family is going through and how much we miss him. We are not left with any answers or any explanation. He was an amazing young man, I think about him every second of the day and always regret not telling him how much I loved him. I know people always want signs from their loved ones, but we are desperate. I like to think he hears us and is able to watch over his little boy and feel proud if us all. Thank you for this video x
Hi Jessica,
You’re welcome for this video. I’m so sorry about your uncle and brother-in-law. That’s so very tragic for your family. I hope someone in your family will be able to get a copy of my book, because it’s people like you I had in mind when I wrote it. I discuss suicide in great detail there and it would be good for your family members to discuss what I’ve written there. Since you found this video helpful, that book will be even more helpful to you all. My sympathy goes out to you all during this very difficult time.
My book, Answers About The Afterlife: http://www.amazon.com/dp/0965601986/?tag=altvcom-20
Warmly,
Bob
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Your asnwers are so great and I understad everything you sed and agree btw I know this was posted 2012 but yea thx for the info
You’re welcome!
Warmly,
Bob
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Thank you Bob that video is very inspiring and comforting a girl that i love commited suicide and ive been so depressed about it i know she is happy and safe in now before she keft she told me she would watch over me and stay by my side everyday hding my hand and that when im depressed i would feel the warmth of her hug i feel comfort knowing that she is watching over me and with your video
Hi Joe,
Sorry to hear about your loss. Yes, without any doubt in my mind, she was watching you watch the video. I suspect she was dancing around in joy because of it. My best wishes to you.
Warmly,
Bob
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God Bless you. You just made me change my mind about committing suicide.
Dear Bob,
I was just 12 years old when I began documenting my thoughts of death. For many years I wrote about these feelings, describing in great detail the misery that consumed me. Looking back, nearly 18 years later, I had trouble understanding why. I found it difficult to fathom such a young child turning to these extremes.
Your research has certainly made an impact on my perception. I want to thank you for sharing your experiences. You’ve put a light on a rather dim portion of my life. I wish you well in your future work.
~ Randi
Hi Randi,
Well thank YOU for sharing that with me. It give me great fulfillment to know how my book and work has affected people. My best wishes to you.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
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Hello Bob,
I have been researching the topic of ” Suicide” and what happens to the soul since I found out that my ex-fiance took his life. We were broken up for many years, however we remained very close for 14 years. He was a respected physician until he took a leave of absence due to a major surgery that he never fully recovered from and he became an over medicated patient for several years. The details that led up to his untimely death due to suicide is not what I am here to chat about.
My concern that I would like you to address and possibly explain is that I felt a strong presence of my ex the day before my surgery on July 19, 2014 and I just got up and went to my computer and there it was, his obituary. It was like a movie, I was directly led to this information when normally I would just call him. His sister never called me to tell me the news and apparently he left a 6 page letter. He had a tormented relationship with her. The first thing she said when I asked if he left a will, was that she has a lawyer and he was not in his right state of mind. He was worth a ton of money.
Now to the point, do you believe that Jonathon ( my beloved ex) could be trying to tell me something is not right and he is upset because since learning of his suicide on July 19, 2014 , his presence is around me constantly and I have not felt peaceful. it is like he is purposely wanting me to feel uneasy to get the message that he is trying to tell me something. I am a strong faith based person and I lead a very peaceful and serine life . I have felt emotional and i have this feeling constantly that he is around me.I am in school studying the medical field and thought maybe I just feel close to him, however it is a VERY strong presence. I was thinking of going to see a medium even though it is not a great thing to do as a Christian. Can you please give me your take on this because I am exhausted and would like to sleep and feel peaceful again…..
Respectfully,
Ela
Hi Ela,
I’m sorry for your loss. I will be brief, but will say that your beloved ex is at peace where he is now, so I don’t believe he is urgently trying to make anything happen by visiting you. Said another way, he is not tormented by anything his sister is doing (or not doing), so if you are feeling uneasy it is likely more your own suspicions–possibly your own intuition–but not anything he is making you feel.
I don’t recommended going to a medium for this purpose. I don’t believe mediums are meant to convey messages of this sort. I believe mediums are best for providing evidence that our loved ones are in spirit, happy and at peace, and are around us. Mediums are best to help people dealing with loss, not wills. Too many people who visit mediums for the reasons you’ve suggested tend to lead the medium with clues (even unconsciously) in order to hear what they want to hear. That’s not going to make matters any better for you. You can’t go to a court of law and say, “My medium told me…”
My advice to you is to hire a lawyer to find out if you were left anything in the will. That’s pretty straightforward. That way you can let the lawyer do what she does best and you can continue to live your life in peace. If you are having difficulty dealing with the loss of your ex-husband and wish to see a medium to confirm that he still exists and is in a joyful state, that would be a good reason to go.
I hope this is helpful to you.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
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My friend’s mother jumped into a river and took her own life. His father died of illness three years ago. Since then his mother felt depressed.
Not long ago, and one day in the morning when my friend’s wife gave a baby, and he saw his mother’s spirit in some dream state. She just smiled. He told me that amazing and vivid dream “You mother is happy and to be a grandmother and says hello to you.” I said.
In our eastern country believes that people will be in hell or trapped in prison until the day of “nature death ” comes. Sometimes the left loved ones suffered so much, thought we believe afterlife and reincarnation. I understand and feel pains that some our religious beliefs can’t help and even more worse to us. That’s why the knowing of past life and afterlife so important is. I bought your book and read it again it comforted me so much.
Thanks Martin,
I’m glad my book was helpful to you. Thanks for sharing.
Warmly,
Bob
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I just came across your website when I was surfing for information on Ian Stevenson, a psychiatrist who researched reincarnation and past lives.
While I have always been skeptical, almost to the point about being cynical, about some psychic practitioners, I am a firm believer in the existence of an after-life and in reincarnation, not on any religious basis, but because of personal experiences that I have had.
I found your video to be very credible and matter of fact when compared to some of the airy-fairy presentations of many self-proclaimed psychics. In particular, your comments about “hell” should provide a welcome message to many who have been raised in a belief system that threatens eternal damnation for those who have “sinned”.
I sincerely hope that your message about this subject and of the many that share your views of what existence is all about will eventually replaces the narrow and damaging indoctrinating dogma of fundamentalist religions. It is possible to believe in a spiritual world and in a source of all life (whatever you may wish to call that entity), without suspending your judgement and will to some demagogue who claims that God loves you and he needs money.
Hi Benjamin,
Thanks for your kind and thoughtful comment on this video.
Warmly,
Bob Olson
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HI Bob,
Just wondering if you could answer something, but you’re probably a very busy man. My dad is 62 years old, but when he was younger he read the books of Tuesday Lobsang Rampa, that were written in the 50’s and 60’s. And I have purchased Your book and have explained some of the conclusions you have uncovered to my father and he tells me that the conclusions about the after life in your book are very similar to the one’s in Lobsang Rampa’s.
Have you ever read Lobsang Rampa’s work?
Hi John,
I’m not familiar with this author, so I will check these books out. Thank you.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
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I’ve also got to mention Bob,
When I found your book was released, It was the most excitement I’ve had to read any book. I had to order the book from the US, for my local book stores hadn’t received it yet. I also frequent your web site. From your discoveries I believe it’s not a coincidence that when your father passed that you were compelled to do your research and give a gift not only to your self, but to many people all over the world! It’s quite astonishing how a sad event in your life can effect you to pursue information that would help you and possibly millions around the world for the better. I live in Australia by the way. You must feel a great sense of pride.
You probably all ready realise the positive effect your having on many people everywhere. I would still like to say on behalf of myself and many, who are unknown to you, that you’ve helped so many with personal struggles about life and the Afterlife.
I Thank you for your book,
and Thankyou sincerely.
Hi John,
Thank you for writing such a kind and thoughtful comment on AfterlifeTV.com. I appreciate what you wrote. I do think about the people who are dealing with loss whenever I write or host a new Afterlife TV episode. Yet it’s easy for me to forget the benefits people gain from my work, so it’s nice when folks like you take the time to let me know — it inspires me to do more.
Warmest regards,
Bob
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Hello Bob,
I just found your site and i wanted to thank you for this video. It was very inspiring. I’d love to see more of your research so i’ll get on with the browsing.
Best regards,
Emilia
Hi Bob
Thanks for this articulate, complète, full of meaning video. It has been years and year I’m studying the subject of afterlife when comiting suicide through religion, spiritism…. Your video is enlighting and i would like to warmly thank you for it.
Very best regards
Frédéric
Hi Frédéric,
You’re most welcome. Thanks for your comment.
Warmly,
Bob
Hi Bob,
Thank you for your video.
My 22 year old brother took suicide a month ago.
I am so devastated and broke.
I am even mad at myself for not being able to save him.
But your video give me comfort and relief that he is in good hands now.
Hi Belle,
Very sorry about your brother’s passing. Don’t be mad at yourself; your brother doesn’t want that. If there’s one thing I’ve learned about suicide, it’s that the surviving family and friends are not responsible in any way. We must hold our loved ones in spirit accountable for causing their own passing for the healing to begin. That’s what we need and what they want (as spiritual beings). What’s done is done and now we need to go on living our own lives while keeping positive memories of their “life” (not their death) in our minds. And as I explained in this video, they are with us in spirit, watching what we do, hearing what we say to them, all the while living in the peace, joy and love of the spiritual dimension.
My book discusses suicide and the afterlife in much more detail: http://www.amazon.com/dp/0965601986/?tag=altvcom-20
Warmly,
Bob
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Hi Bob
There are angels and demons in this world and you are most certainly an angel.
My wonderful son Luke recently suicided and your videos have given me personal closure and professional information. I now know he is OK and he definitely is around keeping an eye on me. .
I am a psychologist by trade and your work brings to my work with grieving clients an understanding which allows me to support them at a much deeper level. Thank you.
Hi Helen,
Very sorry about your son’s passing. I appreciate you telling me how my work and this information has helped you. I think you’d benefit from my book, Answers About The Afterlife, too. And I’m pleased to know of the ripple effect with your work. Best wishes to you.
Warmly,
Bob
AfterlifeTV.com
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Dear Bob:
My son died this week. His choice hurts, mostly because I hate knowing he was in so much pain. I have believed for a long time that there is more to life than what we are traditionally taught. Thank you for taking the time to share with us what happens after we pass. (I have always been terrified of death since childhood). Now, I feel I have a better understanding. Thank you.
Hi Tricia,
I’m very sorry to learn about your son’s passing. I am glad, however, that you found this video so quickly. Your instincts have been right all along. I definitely recommend my book for you, Answers About The Afterlife (link below). It expands even more on the subject of suicide, and provides even more comfort. I know you’ll want to read and reread it in your journey of bereavement. My best wishes to you.
Warmly,
Bob
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thanks so very much. my grandson committed suicide. my brother is mentally ill and has seriously tried twice. so glad. he did not succeed. on the other hand. he says he is in so much pain he just waqnts to go home… makes sense. jamie and thanks
Hi Bob,
I enjoyed your video and it made complete sense to me. What I don’t understand is that why religions like Christianity, Islam & Judism all believe there’s heaven and hell and they don’t believe in reincarnation, in fact they consider it a sin!
I’ve been researching this and haven’t found any answers. I thought maybe you can shed some light into this for me.
Thank you
Hi Marjan,
I don’t concern myself with religion in my work because I only focus on the evidence I’ve discovered and draw my conclusions accordingly. After all, I’m an investigator and not a religion expert. Consequently, sin is a religious word and has no meaning outside of religion. I certainly found no evidence of sin in my investigation of the afterlife, including the evidence of what happens to people who take their own life.
While it’s difficult for many people to not have a knee-jerk reaction to think the afterlife is related to religion (usually because they were taught certain religious beliefs since they were a child), as an investigator of life after death the evidence is what is real. Religious beliefs to an investigator are merely interpretations of what the afterlife might be based on the particular mindset of each religion (the mindset being each religion’s foundational beliefs).
So if you wanted to understand life after death from a religious perspective, you would have to take each religion one at a time — in which case you would find varying, often contradictory, interpretations between some religions. There’s nothing wrong with that approach; I encourage everyone to choose their own beliefs and their own approach to understanding what happens to us after we die. But to answer your question about my own experience, religion has nothing to do with my investigation of this subject for the reasons stated.
Warmly,
Bob
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Bob, I totally love what you say but have a question, and would like to know if anyone you know (medium) can comment to you about it? Q= whether things ever go wrong; I don’t mean that we can’t “make them right” in the long run, or the other world, but if sometimes we fail to do our life plan, or sometimes instead things actually are different than planned. You mention that life plans can be messed up. Is it always a flaw in us, as in, we didn’t do ours properly? Or can there be other mistakes?
Hi CK,
Actually, there is never a flaw in us and there’s no such thing as doing it properly (or unproperly/wrong). It’s kind of like when we make a plan to go to the fall fair. We plan to see the draft horses, eat some fried dough, watch the dog show, and buy a ShamWow while we’re there. So we go, but we do none of those things. Instead we see the state’s best cows, eat caramelized apples, watch the demolition derby, and don’t buy any as-seen-on-TV products. We didn’t do anything we planned yet we had some great experiences. We still had a great experience. And that’s what it’s like for our souls. We can do absolutely nothing our soul had planned, yet whatever we do is going to be experiences that our soul learns and grows from.
Warmly,
Bob
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I have a question please reply me.
Day before yesterday one of our tanent she was young and 19 years old. She committed suicide and I feel her around me but there is no evidence yet. Is there any possibility of he presence
Hi Shaila,
If you were friends with her and her passing has affected your life, yes it’s likely that she is around you. In spirit we are able to be in many places at one time, so by being present with you it does not take away from her being with family. To me, your feeling her presence around you IS evidence.
Warmly,
Bob
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My Father committed suicide when I was 14, and just 3 weeks ago my little brother committed suicide. My brother was my world and I just want to know how can I know he is ok so I can let him go because I fear that letting him go is like forgetting, and how can you forget someone you loved so much. I am sad since my brother died in my arms and I am scared, saddened, and feel lost without him. Thank you for your time.
Hi Betty,
I’m very sorry for both your losses. I don’t believe we should forget, but letting him go simply means to accept that he is now at our true home–the spirit world. There are many methods for knowing he is okay, Betty; but I would be to get a private reading (I recommend a one-hour reading) with a medium who is a stranger to you. Do not tell the medium why you are going there, meaning do not tell that person anything about your little brother or how he died. Let the medium tell you those things. And when a stranger tells you things about your brother that they could never possibly know without being in communication with him, that can be very comforting.
You can find excellent mediums at http://www.BestPsychicMediums.com and http://www.BestPsychicDirectory.com
My warmest wishes to you. I think my book would be helpful to you as well: http://www.BobOlson.com
Warmly,
Bob
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Dear Bob, my sister recently committed suicide and due to circumstanes a part of me still doesn’t believe it happened.
Your kind and honest remarks are so helpful and healing
Thank you,
Mike
Hi Mike,
I’m very sorry for your loss. Suicide is a very difficult way to lose a loved one, because it brings up so many questions and emotions. I’m glad this video was helpful to you. You would probably find comfort from my book too. http://www.amazon.com/dp/0965601986/?tag=altvcom-20
My best wishes during your time of grief and healing.
Warmly,
Bob
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Aloha Bob,
Thank you for this video. I needed this! It’s been 23 years since my friend committed suicide. It haunts me until today. I think about him all the time but recently have started dreaming about him again a lot. Is there a significance in this? I appreciate any thoughts you have!
Thank you so much for the video and your time,
Debby
Aloha Debby,
I’m glad you found this video. On the one hand, our loved ones come to us in our dreams often. If you listen to the last 4 episodes (not so much this week’s but the 3 prior), I talk about dream visitations. Or, if your friend is just trying to say hello, you could be dreaming about that person because of it. http://www.AfterlifeTV.com.
I also talk about dream visitations in my book, Answers About The Afterlife, on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/dp/0965601986/?tag=altvcom-20
Warmly,
Bob
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Thank you,
Hi Bob , Lost a dear friend to suicide feb 6th 2017 . Its broken me , she was very devout Catholic but was suffering a deep depression from April 2016 onwards . This has broken our family my faith and my heart .
Just want to say thank you for your video its interesting .
Kind regards
Gary . C .
Hi Gary,
Oh, my goodness, that is one of the most difficult passings for families and friends to deal with. I’m very sorry for your loss. That video is one of the most viewed episodes of all my Afterlife TV shows for a reason. I’m pleased you found it. My book discusses the topic in a little more detail, but same principle–people who take their life go to the same place as the rest of us. What I didn’t mention in that episode, but wish I had, is that I suffered with chronic depression and suicidal ideation myself in the 90s, so I speak from experience on both aspects. My best wishes to you and everyone who knew her in your painful bereavement.
Warmly,
Bob
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Hi Bob,
I am from India. My boy friend recently commited suicide. He use to keep on saying I will die if you don’t marry me. I was scared for his behaviour and could not take a step ahead to marry him. He loved me so much and finally I have decided to marry him and he knows that. We planned to marry in the month of May. Suddenly one day he was fully drunk and fought with me and texted me saying that i know you will not marry me and I am hanging myself. I did not believed him. He really commited suicide and I completely broke down. I still cannot believe this. Their family and friends are blaming me.Daily I am dying of guilt and something is eating me from inside.. thank you so much for the video. I felt a kinda relax after watching your video. Any input from you would really help me.
Thank you,
Deepthi.
Hi Deepthi,
I’m very sorry for your loss and your tragic circumstances. It is not your fault that your boyfriend took his own life. Regardless of what anyone else says, you need to realize that you were never in control over his suicidal tendencies. No one is ever responsible for another person taking his or her own life. People will always look to blame someone else for such tragedies. It’s easier than facing the truth–that their loved one took his own life. Suicide holds a lot of emotions for those left behind. Be at peace knowing that you are not at fault and your boyfriend is at peace in the afterlife. My best wishes to you in your time of grief and turmoil.
Warmly,
Bob
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Dear bob,i wrote this comment a few weeks ago maybe idid something wrong or you had been so busy—anyway i try ot again I wonder, why people, who lost someone by suicide, often go to organizations, which want to hinder suicid. it’s always said, noone is guilty because no
one can changei it. where is the sense then? I feel guilty, because my brother committed suicide atfer an argument(he was 14 and i was 17) but when it had meant to be, then nobody could have changed it. Why then try to rescue others, when it-s meant to be? it drives me crazy !!! Do you have an answer? greeting conny today is August, 04. 9:15 am
Hi Conny,
I was unable to answer your question in a brief comment reply. And I’m unable to here as well. In fact, I’m not entirely sure what your question is. If you’re asking why we should try to help others in turmoil, then you’re missing the point of compassion. If you’re asking why we should help others when it won’t make it difference, I say that it does make a difference. I believe we have free will, and that we/humans are not merely puppets playing a role determined by destiny/fate. But if I really had to guess, I think you’re grappling with the idea of whether or not you could have saved your brother from taking his life. And no one knows the answer to that, because anything is possible. But we can pretty confidently assume that your brother did not take his life because the two of you argued. There’s likely a much deeper story to it than that. And you have not given me enough details to make even an educated guess as to that deeper story, and maybe you don’t know because you were only 17 when it happened (you were just a kid yourself).
If there is one thing I do know, it is that your brother went home to the light and love of the spirit world and that he does not want you to blame yourself for “his” choice to take his own life. His spirit aches to see you suffering for his final act, but many people do suffer due to their loved ones suicide, so you are not alone. And this is why it’s such a bigger question than can be answered here, Conny, because while I believe compassion is something we should all have for others and take action on, I also believe that every person has free will, so nobody should blame themselves when someone else takes their own life. Does this mean that nobody can save someone who intends to take their life? No! I believe people’s love and compassion help people through their suicidal impulses/ideation every day. But even that alone can never guarantee that the person won’t still carry through with their free will choice the next day, or the next, or the next. In most of these cases, these people are dealing with chronic depression, and for this reason many of these people are not thinking rationally, which is why they erroneously believe that taking their life is the answer to escape what they are feeling.
My recommendation to you, Conny, is to find a counselor who specializes in grief. And if you can find a counselor who specializes in grief after a loved one’s suicide, even better. There are also grief support groups that can help, which are filled with other people who know from personal experience what you are going through. So that is what I recommend to you. And I also recommend that you not believe that we cannot help others with our love, compassion, care, and assistance, because we can. One person certainly can make a difference in another person’s life and in the world. And that is a wonderful reason to seek help to get more in balance with this, so you can help others once you are feeling better. I hope you will seek professional help so you can move beyond this as much as possible, and so you can feel more joy in your life.
My warmest wishes,
Bob
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Dear Bob thank you deep from my heart for your wonderfull and honest answer. You took me seriously that felt so good. I wrote a very long story this morming to tell you more,but it was too long and I could not post it. So I try it again and make it short. Anyway you helped me more than all the therapists,I went to.they did not want to talk about suicide… Your Compassion made me cry and I realized many things, I was mot aware of. i am glad,you are here on earth,Bob Conny
Mr Olsen:
As I’m watching this video on ‘What happens to those who commit suicide’, I’m taking it all in.
However, in February, my son will have been gone 12 years.
I don’t know if it was suicide or murder. I need closure.
I know my son, I know he wouldn’t take his own life.
His name is Joshua and he was 19.
I’ve read that spirits will admit to suicide?
My sister, Debbie, has passed. I ‘see’ her taking care of Josh. Do family members stay together?
HI Cynthia,
Very sorry about your son, Josh. Yes, most people in spirit will admit to their suicide. Of course, the medium must interpret what the spirit is saying properly, although many do. And yes, family members are able to be with one another in the spirit world. My book, Answers About The Afterlife, explains this in much better detail, but they are able to be together and they certainly greet loved ones after they die. I don’t believe that anyone in spirit needs taking care of by another spirit, as we all become whole after a rapid transition (regardless of how we die). In fact, Josh might be helping other people transit from the physical to the spirit world who passed from suicide or murder.
The other thing you’ll learn from my book is how our loved ones in spirit don’t care if their murders are solved or whether people know the truth of how they died. They are very detached from it all. Perhaps your journey here on earth is to find closure without knowing the details of his passing. That in itself is a spiritual growth undertaking of immense significance, even though it is also quite a challenge. However, one thing I am sure about is that Josh just wants you to be happy and to live the rest of your life in peace. He does not want you to suffer any longer than necessary from his death. So perhaps you can consider finding closure without knowing the details of his passing as a tribute to him, that is if you aren’t willing to try it for your own sake. I wish you that peace, too. Blessings to you, Cynthia.
Warmly,
Bob
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Hi Bob really interesting and have the most bizarre question. I read a story a few months back about someone that commited suicide and I felt this massive connection to them even though I had never met them I now can’t stop thinking of them and questioning everything about my life and meaning. I feel like I’ve lost my soulmate infact I feel like I’m going mad as im happily married with children and now feel like my whole life is a lie can you explain why I would feel like this about a stranger?
Hi Angeldust27,
My take on soulmates is not a romantic notion but rather a soul with whom we’ve shared many lives. My experiences and investigations have taught me that we have more than one soulmate. If you shared many lives with this person who took his own life, it’s not bizarre to me that you could feel it. It’s sort of like the way twins feel what’s happening with one another. Still, this doesn’t mean that you were meant to ever meet this person, and it certainly does not mean that you were meant to be with this person romantically. It simply means that you know this person from the spirit world (the afterlife). It’s really that simple.
In this light, there’s also no such thing as losing a soulmate, which I think is better referred to as a ‘soul family member,’ because you will meet up with him again when you go home to the spirit world — not in a romantic way (there is no romance in the spirit world), but in a friendship way where friends prefer to share experiences together. I strongly believe that if you were meant to meet this person, or be with him as a couple, it would have happened — your spirit guides would have made it happen. It didn’t, so I would rest assured that you are on the path you were meant to live. I hope this is helpful to you.
Warmly,
Bob
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