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What Happens in the Afterlife to People Who Commit Suicide?

Bob Olson talks about suicide and the afterlife. 

In this video report, I cover the subject of suicide from many different angles. Based on the evidence of my 13-year investigation into the afterlife, I share with you in this video what happens when people who have committed suicide return home to the spirit world, the consequences of their act, whether or not they go to a place some people might call hell, how their suicide affects their soul and their soul’s growth, how their pre-birth choices are connected to their suicide, and even how free will comes into play. If you have lost someone because they took their own life or you are merely curious about this subject, this video promises to be thought-provoking, insightful and comforting.”  ~ Bob Olson, Afterlife TV

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Bob Olson:  Hi everybody, Bob here with Afterlife TV.  This is where we search for evidence of life after death.  You can find us at

Today I’m going to be doing a video report.  We have different kinds of videos that we offer on Afterlife TV.  One is the video conversations where I’m actually interviewing guests about things that they have an expertise about.

Video reports are really me reporting to you, just as I used to do after my investigations when I worked for lawyers or other people. I would hand in a report at the end, giving all the facts, the evidence, and drawing my conclusions.  This is what I do with these video reports on Afterlife TV.

Then we have the Experiences category where people talk to us about the experiences that they have had related to the afterlife.  Some of the most recent have been about peoples near death experiences.

Today’s video report is about a question that I often get.  Gees, for over a decade now, there probably isn’t a week that goes by that someone isn’t curious about what happens to people in the afterlife when they have committed suicide.

This is a very difficult subject.  For many people, where it really hits home; if you are a suicide survivor, you know the depths of grief, of pain, and questions that have gone through your mind.

Today, I’m just going to talk about the afterlife and answer this one question about what happens to people in the afterlife when they have committed suicide and gone into the Spirit world.

The simple answer is that the same thing that happens to the rest of us is what happens to people who commit suicide.  They go to the spirit world.  They are immediately immersed in a sense of inner peace, calmness, love and even joy; probably very contrary to what you might expect.  There is no difference just because they took their own life.  They go there and they are greeted by loved ones in spirit; so people that they knew from this life, who greet them, and welcome them back home.  It’s a joyous experience, it’s a wonderful experience even for people who have committed suicide.

It’s not until after their initial introduction back home that they eventually suffer some of the consequences that come from taking their own life.  We’ll talk about that, but what I will say is that since investigating the afterlife, and with a careful focus on this particular subject since 1999, I have never seen any evidence of hell and I certainly have never seen any evidence that people who take their own life go to such a place, alright.  So I’m going to get that out of the way right now.

I do want you to know that what I am going to talk about, and what I’m going to tell you in terms of the evidence and conclusions that I’ve drawn from that evidence about this particular subject matter, come from a guy who thinks like an investigator, and therefore, comes from a very practical standpoint.

So not everybody is going to agree with the answers that I come up with, and one of the reasons for that is that people have been talking about this subject for years.  Sometimes things are taught and they get passed on down the line, and other people adopt what they have said as truth.  Therefore, even if it’s untrue, these untruths end up getting passed down the line for generations.

I like to take these things that have been taught in this way, sort of put them up to the test, and throw them aside because, I don’t look at them as truth.  I like to test them out for myself, look at the evidence that I have gathered, and draw my own conclusions.  And that’s what I hope to inspire you to do as well.  Don’t take my word for what I’m about to tell you or anything that I tell you on Afterlife TV.  Just be inspired to go out and investigate the afterlife for yourself, gather your own evidence and draw your own conclusions. That’s what this is all about.

Today’s answer is all about questioning what other people think happens to people in the afterlife, after they have taken their own life, and looking at it from a very practical standpoint.

All right, so we’ve already covered that nothing different happens initially when these people crossover.  They’ve taken their life, they go.  They’re feeling a sense of love and inner peace and they have a reunion with their loved ones in spirit; perhaps their Spirit guide or Spirit guides and eventually what happens is they get to the point where they have a life review.  This is where they’re really going to deal with the consequences of their final acts, the act that took their life by their own hands.

They’re going to realize that this was a critical error in what they did.  They’re going to recognize that it was a mistake and they’re going to have many regrets about it.  Some of the things they’re going to regret is they’re going to regret what they missed in terms of what they would’ve accomplished if they had not taken their life.  The things in their lifetime that they came here to do, to learn, to accomplish that now that they’ve taken their own life, they’re not going to be able to benefit in those ways.  They’re going to recognize that from a very deep standpoint. A place that would even be difficult for any of us here on the physical plane to understand, and it’s going to cause a deep sense of regret within them.

They’re also going to regret the efforts that were made on their behalf by other people in spirit.  There are people within their soul group who helped them plan for this lifetime and within this lifetime.  People within their soul group who shared this life with them, and who helped them in many ways.  There are Spirit guides who helped them all along their life before, planning before their birth, after their birth, and guiding them along the way, helping them to accomplish what they came here to do.

That may be Spirit guides, it may be Masters, that may be Elders.  Those are all things that I’m not going to get into, in terms of defining right now, but you can look those things up on the internet to sort of understand that better.  The point being that we do not come into a lifetime, plan it, and sort of walk through this life all on our own.  And that’s going to be a common thing that you’ll hear in many of the videos.  We are not alone, we are being guided and a lot of people helped us to get here and a lot of people are helping us on the other side while we are here.

So what happens is if someone takes their own life, they get back to the spirit world and there’s a sense of regret and maybe even a sense of shame for taking away what they had hopes to accomplish, as I said earlier.  Not just from their own standpoint, but also because all these other people, these other souls helped them along the way and made so much effort on their behalf, and now it’s not going to get finished out the way they had planned.

The third type of regret, that is probably the worst of all of them is the grief and anguish that a person who commits suicide causes their loved ones here who remain on the physical plane and have to deal with the loss, their loss.

In the Spirit world we don’t deal with time, but that soul who took his or her life recognizes that their loved ones here on Earth certainly do deal with time and they recognize that for many of them, getting over their death and dealing with their grief in this way is going to take a lot of time, if they get over it at all.

So there’s a lot of regret, there’s a lot of suffering that comes along with watching your loved ones suffer in this way because of something that you did.  That’s true for anything we do, and certainly it’s true in the case of suicide.

So people who take their own lives, carry the weight of their suicide forever recognizing that we are eternal beings.  This is something that the soul is going to learn from having done that.  You’re going to learn from it.  You’re going to learn from that experience; the experience, even in the spirit world, dealing with all of the things that I just talked about.  But because of that, it actually becomes a benefit, if you know what I mean.

Every experience that we have here on Earth whether good, bad, positive, negative or however you want to call it, is something that we learn and we grow from as souls.  So while we judge them here as that’s good and that’s bad, really it’s more of a positive/negative type of experience when you crossover and get into the spirit world.  And you don’t really judge it in that way, you just recognize that, that is something that happened that changed you in some way. We learn and grow from every experience, regardless of whether it is positive or negative.

I do want to sort of dispel a myth, but I understand why so many people have said it.  There is this idea that people who commit suicide go into the spirit world and they sort of exist in this hospital-like setting where other spirits; compassionate souls who maybe understand what they’re going through, or who have a certain proficiency in helping people with this sort of thing, take care of them, and that it takes a long time for them to rebuild their energy so that they can recover from their suicide.

There is some truth to that, in that when we have our life review process no one in the spirit world is judging us because of anything that we did, and certainly not the suicide; the act of taking our own life.  So in that way, there are people who will help us get through the regrets, the shame, and the anguish that I talked about a moment ago, but not in a hospital-like setting.

This is where, me coming from a place of practicality, really shows its face because I think when these things are said, and if they are said by people in spirits, through mediums, or they’re said by people who have had near death experiences and come back, one of the things that I’ve learned in talking with people who have had near death experiences – one, my most recent, which is an interview I did with Anita Moojani, who had an incredible near death experience, they talk about the fact that everything is happening at the same time.  That there is no time in the spirit world, and because of that, people have to make interpretations when they try to explain what it’s like there, so that we, as physical beings, can understand it.

I think this is why these ideas of these hospital settings and stuff are talked about and taught by some people, because it just helps us to better understand it from our own human terms.  But it brings me to the next very important point.

So we’re getting a little more in depth here, about this discussion about suicide, is that we as souls are multi-dimensional beings, okay.  When I say souls, I want you to understand the way that I think of some of this terminology.  I believe that my soul exists in the spirit world and it always stays in the spirit world.  Part of my soul then experiences the lifetime that I’m having, and I would call that my spirit.

My spirit comes with me.  My spirit is in my body, is connected to my soul in the spirit world.  So you might say that the soul is the higher self.  Some people might say that.  And that when the physical body dies and I crossover and go back home to the spirit world, it is my spirit that will travel back, and then re-emerge with my soul.  And my soul then is going to take all those experiences and gain from that, grow from that, but intermerse it with all the other experiences that my soul has had through hundreds, probably thousands of lifetimes, okay.

So, when I say that our souls are multidimensional beings, the point that I’m trying to make is that there are dimensions of our soul that have nothing to do with our suicide, alright.

If we commit suicide, we get back to the spirit world, our spirit merges with our soul, and there are so many dimensions to that soul, to our soul, that it has absolutely nothing to do with that suicide.  Partially because we’ve probably had thousands of lifetimes.  We’re talking about one lifetime, and within one lifetime, we’re only talking about one act, that final life that took our life and brought us back into the spirit world.

So you recognize when you look at it from this perspective, really in the case of eternity, in the case of looking at thousands of lives, it’s a very small fraction of what we are all about, what our souls are all about.  So at the same time, even if we look at this one lifetime alright, that last act, that act of taking our own life while significant, very important, and as I said earlier, brings its own consequences that we will have to deal with, we also have other dimensions that took place within that lifetime.

Other things that we did, many things that we did; accomplishments, acts of kindness, things that we learned, things that we accomplished, just wonderful things that we did during the course of that lifetime that are not erased by the fact that we took our life.  They are not erased by this one final act.

We don’t go and have a wonderful lifetime where a kind and gentle, caring and compassionate, and gentle human being take our life because of some horrible thing that we’re going through and then have all of that erased because we did that one bad thing.

Does that make sense to you?  I hope it does make sense to you, because from a practical standpoint again, this makes a lot of sense to me.  And again, I’m not going to get into the details of all the evidence that I’ve seen over the years, but these are the conclusions that I have come to based on the evidence that I have seen from hundreds of readings, private readings with psychics and mediums, especially mediums, and readings that I’ve watched with other people that probably amount into the thousands, when I’ve gone to live demonstrations and watched several people within a couple of hours get readings from a medium.  As well as all the other experiences I have had with past life regressionists, with life between lives regressionists.  All of those experiences and more gave me the evidence to come up with those conclusions, so this is why I’m sharing it with you.

One of the things that you just want to recognize is that no one commits suicide unless it’s a potential for them.  So this is the next level that I want to get to and help you understand is that we pre-chart our lives before we come here.  So as souls we don’t do it alone.  We have help with Guides and Masters and Elders.  We have help with other people in our soul group even, who help us plan this lifetime.

And in planning this lifetime, we recognize what the potentials are going to be.  If someone has taken their life, if they’ve committed suicide, then the potential for them to take their life existed.  Think about that for a moment.  Because you all know people who would never, ever think, they would never consider ever taking their life.  There are people who it just would never cross their minds, they just couldn’t imagine it, they couldn’t ever get themselves to do it, it’s just not within their genetic makeup, you might say.  And yet other people it is.  Other people had suicidal thoughts, what they call “suicidal ideation,” from even as early as a young child.  So this is part of their makeup.

What this means is that the potential existed as they came into this life, that they might take their lives one day.  Now why would they do that?  They would do that because it was an experience that their soul knew that they would learn and grow from.  So their soul recognized that they’re going to put that potential within that body, within that person, because that is something that they perhaps never experienced before, or perhaps they wanted to try to experience again and maybe do it in a different way.

Or perhaps they have been on the other side of it as someone who lost someone because of suicide.  It may be for karmic reasons or just for the benefit of knowing what the experience is all about, because I do believe that’s the purpose of life to have experiences.  To experience different facets of every possibility, from experiencing hate, experiencing love, experiencing health, experiencing sickness, experiencing joy, experiencing sadness, loneliness, whatever you want to call it.  Experiencing both sides of every possibility, and in this lifetime, the person who took their own life had the potential within them, because it was something that their soul was willing to experience because they knew that they would learn and grow from it.

Does that make sense to you?

Having said that, you recognize that we’re all connected.  And so all the people that are within that person’s life; all the friends, all the family members who are now grieving the loss of their loved one who took their own life, those people came into their life knowing that the potential existed that they were going to have that experience.  That they might grieve the loss, they might experience the loss of this person of this person of their friend, of their loved one, because that person took their own life; they committed suicide.  So you can see the infiniteness of how all this works, that nothing happens by accident.

Now, having said that, and we talked a little bit about the pre-birth options.  I took some notes here so I wouldn’t forget anything.  When we pre-chart our lives in this way, there’s only one variable that we can’t account for, and that is the variable that we don’t know how we’re going to react in the face of any one challenge.  And that’s because we have freewill.

Freewill overrides all, which is what makes having a lifetime as a physical being so enthralling to souls, because we want to see how we’ll react in the face of challenge, really.  In a way, that is the human condition.  What choices will we make in the face of the challenges that we are faced with?

Freewill allows us to make those choices so that no one is destined to commit suicide.  It’s not ones fate to do that.  Only the potential exists and they get to choose whether or not they’re going to actually do that or not.

Now, there are benefits to that soul if they choose not to.  Great benefits.  Probably better benefits, from our point of view, if we want to look at the good and the bad, and as I said in the spirit world they don’t; they don’t judge things in that way.  But there are benefits to making that choice to not take their own life and continue on and accomplish all of the things that they hoped to accomplish during the course of their lifetime. But if they do not.  If they do fall to the temptation of suicide, they are not therefore suffering in external hell as a result of it.

What I want to also mention, and I’m just going to touch upon this briefly, is that there are so many variables that one needs to take into account here; that one needs to factor.  So when it comes to freewill, there is a certain level of accountability.

So when you’re having life review and you’re dealing with the regret and the shame, the consequences of having taken your own life, some of the variables that are going to be looked at by your Spirit guides and by the people who are helping you through your life review; it might be the Council of Elders, some people know them as.  Some of the barriers they’re going to look at is what was going on with you at that time.  So if you were dealing with the mental illness, the culpability might not be as great.  If you were under the influence of bipolar disorder, we’ll say or schizophrenia, which led you to do what you did, obviously, freewill was being influenced in that way.

The same is true for people who are suffering with addictions.  If you were high on some drug and you make that choice to take your own life, yes you made that choice to take the drug.  You made the choices that led you to become a drug addict, so you’re going to deal with that.  The suicide itself might have a little less culpability or impact, and you might feel a little less of some of those things we talked about earlier, because of the fact that the drugs were a factor in your making that choice.

But then there’s other things that we all have to consider.  There are people who take their own lives because they’re dealing with long and painful suffering.  Even if it’s a long slow death, some people know that they’re about to die and hasten that transition with drugs or however they may do it, just so that the suffering isn’t prolonged unnecessarily.  Or just the fact that they can’t possibly bear to go on any longer.  That too is a suicide, but it’s not the same as someone committing suicide because they did something that they’re really ashamed about and they don’t want to have to face the consequences.

The same is true if someone is a prisoner of war and they’re being tortured on a daily basis with no hope for ever getting out of that situation.  They take their own lives, and in that situation, they’re going to deal with it differently than you might if, like I said, you decided to commit suicide just to punish your girlfriend who broke up with you or that sort of a thing.

So I want to finish out by just summarizing that we are multi-dimensional beings as souls.  We will deal with some of the regrets for taking our own lives.  We’re going to deal with that, and for different reasons, as I mentioned in the beginning.  But there is also an acceptance when we crossover and go back to the spirit world, and an understanding that suicide was always a potential for us.  It was part of our makeup and we knew that when we came into this life.

It was a potential that our soul chose, and that one act – I think this is so very important for you to understand if you’re a survivor of someone who took their own life, is that your loved one is not only focusing and concentrating on that one act that took their life.

They are recognizing that they had a whole lifetime of wonderful things that they did, accomplishments, kind acts, loving moments and many things of which they are proud, and other things that they’re probably not so proud.  But this is just one act of many in the course of that lifetime, and one act of an infinite number of acts within the course of maybe hundreds or thousands of lifetimes, knowing that we are all eternal spiritual beings.

So if you’re worried that your loved one is suffering as a result of it.  No.  It’s a wonderful thing for you to try to understand why they took their life to begin with, and if you can find it within your heart to forgive them, I think that would be great for you as well as them.  That certainly is something that so many people in spirit have communicated through mediums that they would like their loved ones to do, is to forgive them for what they did.

And it frees you as well.  It frees you.  You know one of the best things you could possibly do is do some studies on suicide and understand why people commit suicide.  The one thing that I know that many people misunderstand is that – I’ve heard the phrase, “I don’t know how he could do that to me.  How could he do that to me?”

The truth is that in most cases when someone is in the throes of a suicidal act, they’re not thinking about their loved ones at all.  They’re thinking, they’re very focused, they’re hyper focused on whatever issue, whatever challenge, whatever problem that they’re dealing with at that very moment.  They see it as though it is just unbearable, that there’s no escape from it.  They are unable to recognize that it is a temporary problem that they’re choosing a solution that is permanent.

Usually it’s something that they do quite impulsively, and even impulsively sometimes people plan it, but I mean impulsively in the course of days or weeks or even a couple of months.  But it’s an impulsive act where they’re not really able to think about how it’s going to affect others; they’re only thinking about themselves.

But where they are now, they have plenty of time to think about how it affects others, and they’re doing their best, I can assure you – from all of the evidence I’ve ever seen – to try to make up for that, to help you get through whatever you’re experiencing from the other side.

One of the best things you can do is set up a reading with a medium, communicate with them, talk about the suicide, talk about your feelings with it.  You don’t even have to go to a medium to tell your loved ones how you feel about it, they already know.  But if you can find it in your heart to pray for them, send them love, send them forgiveness, that’s one of the best things that you can do.  Again, not only for them, but for yourself as well.

I hope this has been helpful to you and I appreciate you listening.  Come back to Afterlife TV at whenever you get an opportunity.


Afterlife TV is presented by Afterlife Investigator & Psychic Medium Researcher Bob Olson, who is the author of Answers about the Afterlife: A Private Investigator’s 15-Year Research Unlocks the Mysteries of Life after Death.

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