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The Secret to Encouraging Communication from Spirits

Afterlife TV Bite-Sized Episode: Ever wish you’d get more–or at least one–communication from your loved one in spirit? You’ll love this episode pulled from the vaults where Mary has so many After-Death Communications from her son in spirit that it begs the question: What has Mary done to encourage so many signs and messages from him?

Melissa joins me in this episode and hits the nail on the head with the answer to that question. Mary’s daughter also has an extraordinary experience that I’m sure many of you have had. Overall it’s an excellent example of how to get your loved ones in spirit to communicate with you, and Mary’s example offers the multiple ways that can happen. Enjoy the show!

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PS, Photos in video provided by sweet Melissa.

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Hey, everybody. Bob Olson here with “Afterlife TV.” You can find us at This is where we talk about the very big questions we all have about life and death, and this is a bite-sized episode that we’ve pulled from the vaults. Enjoy.

I wanna thank everybody for leaving new reviews for the Magic Mala. I won’t say a lot about it other than we still read all the reviews. We love them. We have a great time seeing how much people are enjoying that book. And the other thing I will just say about the Magic Mala this week is that the audio book just came out yesterday at the time that I’m recording this. Just came out yesterday. So if you’ve been waiting for the audio book version of that novel then please run out and get it now. I will tell you that, I obviously wrote the book. I felt like Alan, the voice over artist who narrated it and did all the voices, just did a phenomenal job. Honestly, he made me misty-eyed at times, had me laughing at other times. I feel as though he made my words better. The guy’s amazing. So if you are one of those people, and many have said that they wanna read the book over and over, the audio book is a new way to experience it. Another great way to re-read that book and I will tell you that it’s really worth it.

I wanna send a little shout out to our friend Rick who recently lost his dog Kona. Kona, the adventure dog. Sadly Rick had to put Kona to sleep. Our heart goes out to him and our heart goes out to everyone who have lost loved ones. Whether that be people loved ones, or animal loved ones, they’re all family members as far as I’m concerned and we are thinking about you. We know that most of the people who are listening to this show are grieving in one way or another.

Today we’re gonna listen to Mary. She’s gonna talk about the many after death communications that she has had from her son who was killed in Afghanistan. I will tell you, and Melissa brought it up after we listened to it, you’ll hear that after her story you’ll hear our comments, but Melissa really brought my attention to it. And it’s amazing that she noticed this because it’s so true. That if you want to get after death communications from your loved ones in spirit, then acknowledge them when they come through. In other words, pay attention to them, recognize them, make a big deal about them, and let your loved one in spirit know that, “Ah, I got the message. Thank you so much for sending that message to me.”

All right, more on that in a moment. So right now, we’re just gonna listen to Mary tell her story.

Mary: When my son deployed to Afghanistan, I kept having a dream of a large military procession going through my town. In my dream I was on the sidewalk watching. One month later my daughter woke up crying with a terrible pain in the left side of her neck. That morning two Marines came to my door to give me the news that my son had been shot and passed away on the battlefield. He was shot in the left side of his neck. That night while standing in the living room I felt a tingling going down my arm and across the side of my face, which I felt was a kiss from him. I just knew from my feelings it was my son coming home to say goodbye. There was indeed a large military procession with honors in my town for him.

One week later, my daughter was lying in bed worried that he might be lost over there and not be able to find his way home. And she was crying. He appeared to her in the darkness of her room, but she could clearly see him in a light. Without any words spoken he let her know he was okay. She also had a dream, or what she thought was a dream, about a month later hearing a helicopter, she went to the window in the middle of the night when she saw a battlefield and a helicopter with a driver. It was so real that she called for her son to come to the window. But when she did that everything was gone. I believe he was showing her the last thing he saw before leaving this earth.

I have a picture of a moving orb in my living room that was taken when I was trying out a camera to see if it was still working and I accidentally snapped a picture. I was talking to my son about the trip I was about to take when it happened. One Valentine’s Day we had a lot of snow and I went to the cemetery, which is an hour away from where I live, and the snow around the stones was up to my hip. Well, I came all that way and I wasn’t going to let his flowers sit in the car and I was gonna get to the stone no matter what. Well, I crawled through the snow over and under and placed the flowers next to his stone and I also cleared away all the snow that was around his stone so we could read the words. I remember thinking, if he could see me now he’d be laughing. That night I dreamed of him and saw him giving me a big hug and a smile for Valentine’s Day

Bob: Hi, Mary. Bob and Melissa here. We listened to your story.

Melissa: Hi, Mary.

Bob: Thank you for your story and we’re both very sorry about the passing of your son. Very tragic event, but well, let me just say this. He certainly is an amazing communicator from the other side.

Melissa: One of the things I was thinking as you were telling each story, it’s a perfect example of when our loved ones in spirit actually get a message through to us. That they’re anxious to send more because they’re being received. And so often they’ll send one after the other. We actually just had this recently happen when our dog passed. The first few days after she passed we both were getting these little messages from her pretty consistently and then they sort of dissipated over time. But I think, you know, it’s almost as if the person in spirit, you know, is excited to get the messages through.

Bob: Well I would imagine they are and certainly that’s been my experience personally and investigating the afterlife that a lot of people have had similar things. And a lot of times they happen soon, like almost immediately after and then with time they do dissipate. Now, not for everybody, but for most people, they actually do. And some people worry about that. “Oh, what happened? You know, I don’t feel them around me anymore.”

Melissa: Right.

Bob: It’s only because you don’t need it as much if they’re not there, if you’re not getting them anymore. We need it the most immediately after their passing.

Melissa: I also wonder sometimes, and you know maybe, Bob, you can speak to this is that, it also must a little bit correlate with their personality. What their personality was here while they were living. You know, some people have more exuberant personalities than others. Some people are quieter. And that maybe sometimes if it was a personality that was quieter, those messages might not come as quickly or as frequently as they might with someone who was perhaps of an exuberant personality.

Bob: Yeah no question about it. I mean they come through with the same personality and so they will communicate, obviously this is different now. They’re in the spirit world, but they’re communicating as if it were them because it is them and they don’t change as much as some people might think they do. So there’s a reality to what you’re saying. And part of the reason that they do that is so we recognize that it’s them. Maybe we recognize their sense of humor. Maybe we recognize if they were very outspoken or maybe even a little pushy. Maybe you recognize that they’re quiet and a little more introverted. And it doesn’t necessarily mean that’s the way they are in the spirit world, but they know that’s how we’re gonna recognize them so they will come through in that way. Especially if you go to a medium and you’re communicating through a medium. That’s definitely going to be the case. They’re gonna come through as you would recognize them. And it doesn’t necessarily mean that’s fully who they are over there, but they know that’s how you will recognize them. And that’s what’s most important especially if you knew to get in readings or something like that.

In your case, Mary, you have shown us many examples of different types of ADC, after death communications. Your daughter with the neck. You know, when I was a young kid, maybe around 12 or something like that, I remember my friend’s father waking up in the middle of the night, two o’clock in the morning he woke up, and…like he just woke up, and like jumped up from lying to sitting in bed and he knew that his mother had passed. And sure enough he got the phone call soon after. And there’s been many stories where people have felt a sensation in their body only to learn that it was somehow related to their loved one who passed. And in this case the daughter has this feeling in her neck, in the left side of her neck, and recognizes that’s where he was shot. This shows the connection that we all have with one another. Which is comforting in many ways, right? I mean we don’t really need a phone call. Sometimes we just know. And in the case of my father’s friend, he knew. And he wasn’t a psychic or anything like that. He was the farthest thing from it. But he had this knowing and the daughter, you know, was getting the message as well in this case for you, Mary.

The living room with the kiss, we actually had an episode not too long ago where someone came through, I think it was Lorenzo came in and, ex fiance, and gave her a kiss. Beautiful story. This too, another beautiful story. This is a possibility. Is it something I’ve experienced? No. Is it something I would like to? Yes. You know, yeah, that must be amazing. But we have to be open enough for it. If our skepticism is so much then…

Melissa: Or our brain is too busy.

Bob: Thank you.

Melissa: In your case.

Bob: Then, you know, we may prevent that from happening. But for certain people, like Mary and other people, like you, Melissa. You would probably feel a kiss if that was the situation. Great examples of different things that happen. What’s some of the other? A lot of worry he was lost. This happens with a lot of people.

Melissa: Oh yeah.

Bob: I did a whole episode on this subject, and people can find that on Afterlife TV, but she’s worried that he’s lost and then immediately he comes through. No, no I’m not lost.

Melissa: And again I think it was the, you know, this knowing that he had, that his messages were being received. So he knew that he could just present himself and that she would get the message.

Bob: And she obviously did. She has the vision first of probably what he saw and then she has the dream. Then we have the whole orb thing in the camera.

Melissa: He just brought it all to you.

Bob: He really did. I mean, I mean there’s so many things here. Now, a lot of people are skeptical about the whole orb thing, but listen, if you’re open minded about it, if you’re having these kinds of messages and you’re in this case, Mary is talking to her son when this camera sort of goes off and then the picture turns out has an orb in it. There’s just an awful lot of coincidence there that’s lined up to make something like that happen. I tend to believe.

Melissa: You have a knowing, like it’s a feeling that you get in your body when a message comes. Trust that feeling. If you feel like that’s your loved one just trust it. It’s okay to trust it. You don’t even have to share it with anybody else. Just trust that that’s it. Because if you allow it in then there will be more.

Bob: Yeah, it’s about not letting your head get in the way of your heart. And the heart is what’s feeling it, you know?

So finally, the Valentine’s Day message that you trudging through the snow, what?

Melissa: I said, what a great segue. You’re talking about the heart.

Bob: Yeah, there you go. If I…wouldn’t it been great if I just done that on my own and figured it out? No. So you’re up to your hips in snow and you get this great dream that night of him hugging you and smiling at you to show that he recognized that you did this. Is it necessary? You know, do we need to do that? Do we, you know, need to put ourselves at risk to make something like that happen? No. I mean they’re fine if their gravestone is covered in snow. That’s not where they’re at people. They’re with you. You know, people aren’t hanging out at the cemetery. Spirits aren’t stuck to the cemetery, they’re with you. But what this is is a gesture. It gives a place for the families to go, which is one of the things I like about cemeteries. It gives people a place to go and spend quiet time with them and be in a present moment as we’ve talked about. So that’s certainly the case here. You went above and beyond that, Mary, and your son recognized it and then you were acknowledged for it in that dream.

Great examples of ADCs, after death communications. The other thing I’ll say is, you know, most of you have had a lot of dream visitations. What we call dream visitations where loved ones in spirit, people who have passed, even animals who have passed, have come through to you in dreams. How do you know the difference between just a regular dream and a dream visitation?

Melissa: For me, personally, I think it’s probably different for everybody, but I know for me personally, typically, my typical dreams are really wacky and weird dreams. You know, I don’t have these sort of practical dreams. I would say that’s the difference for me is that a lot of times when it’s an ADC, it’s just a practical dream. It’s like there’s nothing weird and wacky about it. But I don’t think that’s necessarily true for everybody. That’s just my experience. And it’s usually brief. For me it’s just usually a brief dream.

Bob: Well, a lot of studies have been done on this subject and what you say is true for thousands of people. So, you know, instead of the dream where you’re riding on a horse and then you’re in an airplane, and the next thing you’re on a boat. This is a dream where the person comes into your presence and communicates with you. And sometimes they’re communicating, you know, more specific messages and sometimes it’s just I’m okay, I love you, you know, I’m with you.

Melissa: Yes.

Bob: And that’s the typical dream. I even talked to a guy the other day who I never would have expected to have or wanna hear anything about the work that I do. And I happen to be talking about dream visitations with somebody else and he came up and talked about how his father had come to him in his dream. I didn’t even know his father had passed. And I think it was comforting to him to recognize that this is a real thing because, you know, your intellect gets in the way and goes, was that real?

Melissa: Absolutely. Right.

Bob: And that’s really the difference. You know it when it’s real. And for a lot of people, what they say too is that it’s the kind of dream that you’ll remember for a long time later. Whereas most of these other dreams that are not chronological, that are a little crazy, I mean, you tend to forget. You might remember little bits and pieces of them, but not the whole thing.

Melissa: That’s right.

Bob: A dream visitation you tend to remember the whole dream.

Melissa: Correct.

Bob: And it’s very comforting to you.

Melissa: Yes.

Bob: Alright. That’s it. A little bite size Afterlife TV episode. Thank you so much for joining us. Again, as always, we love to hear from you. Please go to, Facebook, Twitter, iTunes, and…

Melissa: YouTube.

Bob: YouTube. There’s always one that I’m worried about forgetting.

Melissa: If you’d just say social media.

Bob: Well, you could, but I want you to know that we’re on all of them and whatever your preference is, we’ll be there and happy to hear from you. So thank you so much everybody. Have a great week.

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Afterlife TV is presented by Afterlife Investigator & Psychic Medium Researcher Bob Olson, who is the author of Answers about the Afterlife: A Private Investigator’s 15-Year Research Unlocks the Mysteries of Life after Death.

Check out Bob Olson’s other sites: (a directory of hundreds of psychics & mediums by location with reviews & Instant Readings) & (his personal recommended list of tested psychics and mediums) or visit Bob’s Facebook Page. Bob also has a popular workshop for psychics and mediums at

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